I need some advice about a death in the family???

There's been a death in the family the part that has been exstranged for some time now. We talk but only when we need to. Now the guy who died is the main reason that we don't have that conection way we use to be. OK the question how do I tell her how I feel with seeming the only reason I'm there is to confort her when we're not that close anymore. Will the family really know that I'm sincere or hate me even more to being there???I need some advice about a death in the family???
Regardless of what ';they'; think, if you really want to rebuild your relationship with this family, go and support them during this period of grief. It seems as if you sincerely want to get back where you were and believe it or not, they too probably would like to get back there. Use this time of grief as a stepping stone and know that it is only one step in the process. An obstacle has been moved out of your way, take advantage of it. But, your heart has to be true. If you have ulterior motives, then yes it will be apparent to all involved and that would make the situation worse. But, if as it sounds to me, you are sincere, they will accept that sincerity with open arms.


Also, don't ever let someone else determine your relationships. When you care for someone, you care for them--good and bad. Be there for her during her time of loss, but not because you think you are not close anymore, but because you have been carrying this person in your heart which means she will always be close to you regardless of who comes into her life. She is in yours and you will love her through it all. Don't ever be afraid to show love.I need some advice about a death in the family???
Say what you mean and really mean what you say. Also, there is no perfect family. The Brady Bunch just does not exist.