I just started drumming and I'm not quite sure how to involve toms in my drumming apart from using them in fills. Any advice/ideas?New drummer seeking advice about toms...?
It really depends on the music you're playing. Latin music uses a lot of toms: Samba, Bossa Nova.New drummer seeking advice about toms...?
You can get creative with beats on toms. Look up drummers on youtube. Some that you can try are Jason Bittner (Shadows Fall), Mike Portnoy (Dream Theater), Mike Wengren (Disturbed), Jeremy Hummel (Breaking Benjamin), Danny Carey (Tool) just to name a few. They all use toms in their rhythms. Start off experimenting. Don't try to get too complicated until you're ready to. Use basic math ideas mixed with a groove and work your way around the set. One I like to do is play 8th notes on the lowest floor tom and alternate with the other toms with my left hand starting from the highest tom and work my way down.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rErqfUAjF鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwUcs7TDS鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQR85_s5-鈥?/a>
Those should give you some ideas...
well tom drums are one of the most important drums in ur set, of course there used for the rythem keeping during like the verses and stuff, and u can throw in full quads or half quads (the 1234, 1234, 1234 hits) just keep messing around with it and i am sure that you will find a way to incorporate them effectively
Saturday, July 31, 2010
I need some advice about pursuing a relationship with someone online?
I need some friendly advice because I鈥檓 new to dating. I鈥檓 a gay virgin male in his early 20's and I鈥檓 talking to a guy online in his early 30's long distance who seems like my opposite in every aspect of our lives. He seems like the man of my dreams but then I think about reality and where I鈥檓 at now in life. I am a broken person inside and out. I come from a rough background but he鈥檚 willing to take me as I am and assist me. This man seems greater than who I am, he does things that I鈥檝e always wanted to do like travel but I have an anxiety issues. If I end up with him things for me could either be really good or end up being really bad. I think more about the bad because it would take me away from family and I鈥檓 not sure if I can really trust or depend on him to not take advantage of my weaknesses. He鈥檚 extremely attractive too, the model type. He has given me some great advice but I feel totally unprepared to be in a relationship with him. I had turned him down but then I came backI need some advice about pursuing a relationship with someone online?
i myself can relate to that i wanna see wat ppl say in hereI need some advice about pursuing a relationship with someone online?
online relationship is labor intensive...pretty much means that its a lot of effort and time.......if you're an anxious person i suggestion you to stay away from it....cuz of the distance you wouldnt know what he's doing at the moment or who hes hanging out with.....unless theres a lot of trust in the relationship...goodluck
People are rarely as wonderful in person as they present themselves online. I'm not saying he's a fraud, although that's possible. I'm just saying that people put their best foot forward and he may not be as supportive in a ';real'; relationship. I had a horrible experience with a woman I dated online. Once we met in person, she moved in with me right away. She took advantage of my insecurities and played games with my head even after I tried to kill myself. I don't blame her for my suicide attempts because they were my own decision. I do blame her for playing games with me and trying to turn my family against me. I hoipe things work out better for you.
Whoa man, don't go rushing into this blindly, you have so much to lose if it stuffs up, and don't go charging in like a wound bull just because you are a virgin. You have taken a positive step by asking for help on this site, but you must remember people can only give you advice in the right approach to take, ultimately the choice is up to you and you alone, why can't you meet this person a few times to see how compatable you really are and if the compatability and chemistry is really there then you can go for it, if it is not there then you will not be left high and dry. Think it through carefully and don't rush in to it, check it out in careful steps, you can always remain good friends on the net, don't let your weakness be your undoing and lose all that you have now.
On line relationships can be tricky, be careful. Can you survive a week without talking to him? If you can't then go for it!
Arrange to meet in person. If the chemistry is there you will both know it and then you can sort out what the best way to go. I had this perfect on line relationship going with the perfect man ... We met, spent one day together and I want to punch him in the head. Total loser. Dont make any decisions without the meet my friend. Take care, hope it works out for you
Until you actually meet this person you cannot be sure of anything he is telling you, including his gender. I hate to tell you this but people who approach you online and stay that way, usually have something to hide. Suggest a meeting, if he travels so much and is doing so well, then ask him to come to your city and visit you. His answer should tell you everything you need to know.
My advice is to get off the computer and start living life. Anxiety is part of living, but you have to live life to get used to it. Good luck.
I was in a similar situation when I was younger -- met an older guy who I was deeply attracted to but had anxiety issues about my background (very rough), etc., and feared that I would act out with him -- verbally, physically, etc., which was part of my growing up. I decided to go for it and now 22 years later we're still together. In order to make it work I did a lot of work on myself -- I was upfront to him about how hard my life was, and I went to counseling. Through the years I have learned that much of what shaped me was trauma -- alcholic father, poverty, etc. -- which ';wired'; my mind and body. By dealing with that trauma I was able to get myself together; and yes, it requires counseling and medication just to even out my personality. All that's behind me now, I have a great relationship, a great job, have done things I never knew how I would do (travel, etc.) and also have a son. Deal with the trauma in your life and you will make yourself a great partner. Good luck.
i myself can relate to that i wanna see wat ppl say in hereI need some advice about pursuing a relationship with someone online?
online relationship is labor intensive...pretty much means that its a lot of effort and time.......if you're an anxious person i suggestion you to stay away from it....cuz of the distance you wouldnt know what he's doing at the moment or who hes hanging out with.....unless theres a lot of trust in the relationship...goodluck
People are rarely as wonderful in person as they present themselves online. I'm not saying he's a fraud, although that's possible. I'm just saying that people put their best foot forward and he may not be as supportive in a ';real'; relationship. I had a horrible experience with a woman I dated online. Once we met in person, she moved in with me right away. She took advantage of my insecurities and played games with my head even after I tried to kill myself. I don't blame her for my suicide attempts because they were my own decision. I do blame her for playing games with me and trying to turn my family against me. I hoipe things work out better for you.
Whoa man, don't go rushing into this blindly, you have so much to lose if it stuffs up, and don't go charging in like a wound bull just because you are a virgin. You have taken a positive step by asking for help on this site, but you must remember people can only give you advice in the right approach to take, ultimately the choice is up to you and you alone, why can't you meet this person a few times to see how compatable you really are and if the compatability and chemistry is really there then you can go for it, if it is not there then you will not be left high and dry. Think it through carefully and don't rush in to it, check it out in careful steps, you can always remain good friends on the net, don't let your weakness be your undoing and lose all that you have now.
On line relationships can be tricky, be careful. Can you survive a week without talking to him? If you can't then go for it!
Arrange to meet in person. If the chemistry is there you will both know it and then you can sort out what the best way to go. I had this perfect on line relationship going with the perfect man ... We met, spent one day together and I want to punch him in the head. Total loser. Dont make any decisions without the meet my friend. Take care, hope it works out for you
Until you actually meet this person you cannot be sure of anything he is telling you, including his gender. I hate to tell you this but people who approach you online and stay that way, usually have something to hide. Suggest a meeting, if he travels so much and is doing so well, then ask him to come to your city and visit you. His answer should tell you everything you need to know.
My advice is to get off the computer and start living life. Anxiety is part of living, but you have to live life to get used to it. Good luck.
I was in a similar situation when I was younger -- met an older guy who I was deeply attracted to but had anxiety issues about my background (very rough), etc., and feared that I would act out with him -- verbally, physically, etc., which was part of my growing up. I decided to go for it and now 22 years later we're still together. In order to make it work I did a lot of work on myself -- I was upfront to him about how hard my life was, and I went to counseling. Through the years I have learned that much of what shaped me was trauma -- alcholic father, poverty, etc. -- which ';wired'; my mind and body. By dealing with that trauma I was able to get myself together; and yes, it requires counseling and medication just to even out my personality. All that's behind me now, I have a great relationship, a great job, have done things I never knew how I would do (travel, etc.) and also have a son. Deal with the trauma in your life and you will make yourself a great partner. Good luck.
My dad made me very nervous about my driving today and I need some advice?
My new husband and I are staying at my parents together (we sleep in my bedroom) until my love leaves for Basic Training on Aug 27th. We both got our driver's licenses at the same time and in fact were in the same Driver training car. Driving makes me a little nervous so they paid for extra hours. He and I both passed our test and were issued licenses. Since then I usually let him do all the driving including a romantic trip to Lake Tahoe in May (before the forest burned down sniff sniff) where we had to drive fast on the interstate. I don't mind when he drives or my dad or mom and usually pay no attention to how fast they go. Ok, today my dad asked me to drive him to work. He's a police detective and we were driving but somehow he thought I was going to slow and the cars behind me were making me very nervous. He kept the car when we arrived and asked a nice young police officer (if I were still single sigh!!) to drive me home but now I think I need more lessons. What do I do?My dad made me very nervous about my driving today and I need some advice?
When you go somewhere with your husband, father or mother, have them let you drive. You need more experience so you will become comfortable with driving. Kind of like you have a permit, make sure an experienced driver is with you and can help you in areas you need improvement. They can help let you know when you're doing something incorrectly (like driving too slow). It will all work out, you just need to drive more. Let your family help you. Best wishes.My dad made me very nervous about my driving today and I need some advice?
You poor helpless little thing, ...you've let everyone else chauffeur you around ......so you've never kept in practice or developed any confidence behind the wheel at all. Your father was right to keep the car...... you need to build some confidence and become comfortable behind the wheel. That only comes with time and experience.
BTW---- I'm also a Police Detective(retired)
well I know all about that sweetie Im kinda in the same situation I have a learners permit though and this isnt my first time I took some driving lessons once but I didnt have any other help to get comfortable behind the wheel but it was a week before my road test and I drove with someone other than my instructor and they told me I wasnt ready so I didnt go through with the test so now I decided to get my learners again and this time i am more determained than ever but I was told not to worry about driving to slow just stay in the laine that is closest to the right side of the road as to let other drivers go there own speed I hope this helped u cause I really envy u for your courage to share that story it really help me
When you go somewhere with your husband, father or mother, have them let you drive. You need more experience so you will become comfortable with driving. Kind of like you have a permit, make sure an experienced driver is with you and can help you in areas you need improvement. They can help let you know when you're doing something incorrectly (like driving too slow). It will all work out, you just need to drive more. Let your family help you. Best wishes.My dad made me very nervous about my driving today and I need some advice?
You poor helpless little thing, ...you've let everyone else chauffeur you around ......so you've never kept in practice or developed any confidence behind the wheel at all. Your father was right to keep the car...... you need to build some confidence and become comfortable behind the wheel. That only comes with time and experience.
BTW---- I'm also a Police Detective(retired)
well I know all about that sweetie Im kinda in the same situation I have a learners permit though and this isnt my first time I took some driving lessons once but I didnt have any other help to get comfortable behind the wheel but it was a week before my road test and I drove with someone other than my instructor and they told me I wasnt ready so I didnt go through with the test so now I decided to get my learners again and this time i am more determained than ever but I was told not to worry about driving to slow just stay in the laine that is closest to the right side of the road as to let other drivers go there own speed I hope this helped u cause I really envy u for your courage to share that story it really help me
What is some advice about this poem?
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i was keeping up with my thought life
centered around my assigned wife,
but when i tried to intigrate the rest of my day
all the things i enjoy to think about went away,
So i tried philosophy to help me fix it myself
it was better than any medicine on any shelf,
But then i saw what others were doing in my world with me
so sure of their circumstances and ideas they will not agree,
so i left this off here
try to tell me if i am very clear!What is some advice about this poem?
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i am more interested in what they said about this!
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i was keeping up with my thought life
centered around my assigned wife,
but when i tried to intigrate the rest of my day
all the things i enjoy to think about went away,
So i tried philosophy to help me fix it myself
it was better than any medicine on any shelf,
But then i saw what others were doing in my world with me
so sure of their circumstances and ideas they will not agree,
so i left this off here
try to tell me if i am very clear!What is some advice about this poem?
Total marks awarded 75.95%What is some advice about this poem?
i am more interested in what they said about this!
its $hit
If You Want To: Give Me Some Advice About A Purchase (Technology)?
Looking to buy a PS3, but they're pricey.
Is it worth it.
What games would you buy.
What ISP would you recommend for it?
Why is it worth 拢400+
Thanks.If You Want To: Give Me Some Advice About A Purchase (Technology)?
It definitely is worth it.
Here is why:
Wifi internet
Free internet browsing
20-80gigs memory depending on what you buy
Wireless controller
Blu Ray
High speed usb ports for all devices such as cameras and mp3's
Games:
Already out:
Sonic-Decent not too great
Ninja Gaiden Sigma- Amazing
Oblivion- The best game you will ever play of its type
Soon to be released:
Devil May Cry 4
Resident Evil 5
GTA 4
I suggest buy a 20gig ps3 is possible and buy a 250gig 2'5 inch hardrive and put it in the Ps3. Then you will have a ps3 with 250 gigs of memory.If You Want To: Give Me Some Advice About A Purchase (Technology)?
it's soooooooooooooooooo worth it, good games Resistance the fall of man, call of duty 3, burning crusade and the games the guy said above me , the ps3 is a good consul because because it has such good graphics and because it has good games that work only on the ps consuls. The games look so realistic. it's worth 400$+ dollars because of the above, the bets isp is AOL. hope I answered all your ?'s =)
Sorry to upset all the PS3 fan boys, but i have a PS3 and a 360...and personally I play the 360 everyday (xbox live rules) and have played the PS3 maybe 5 times in three months...!
Is it worth it.
What games would you buy.
What ISP would you recommend for it?
Why is it worth 拢400+
Thanks.If You Want To: Give Me Some Advice About A Purchase (Technology)?
It definitely is worth it.
Here is why:
Wifi internet
Free internet browsing
20-80gigs memory depending on what you buy
Wireless controller
Blu Ray
High speed usb ports for all devices such as cameras and mp3's
Games:
Already out:
Sonic-Decent not too great
Ninja Gaiden Sigma- Amazing
Oblivion- The best game you will ever play of its type
Soon to be released:
Devil May Cry 4
Resident Evil 5
GTA 4
I suggest buy a 20gig ps3 is possible and buy a 250gig 2'5 inch hardrive and put it in the Ps3. Then you will have a ps3 with 250 gigs of memory.If You Want To: Give Me Some Advice About A Purchase (Technology)?
it's soooooooooooooooooo worth it, good games Resistance the fall of man, call of duty 3, burning crusade and the games the guy said above me , the ps3 is a good consul because because it has such good graphics and because it has good games that work only on the ps consuls. The games look so realistic. it's worth 400$+ dollars because of the above, the bets isp is AOL. hope I answered all your ?'s =)
Sorry to upset all the PS3 fan boys, but i have a PS3 and a 360...and personally I play the 360 everyday (xbox live rules) and have played the PS3 maybe 5 times in three months...!
I think I am get too emotional about politics ? Any advice ?
I just had a run in with some people about this movie http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
I think it's best to get a break from politics ... any suggestions besides music , movies and what not ?I think I am get too emotional about politics ? Any advice ?
stay out of yahoo answers for a little while... Pop into the yahoo chat rooms and Play trivia....
AND go out and make sure you take the time to smell the roses and study the ants... both are very the rapeutic (sp)I think I am get too emotional about politics ? Any advice ?
Trying to get through to liberals, is a lot like shouting at the ground.
Its much more fun to laugh and make fun of them
of course, then they report you and get you suspended (as if creating another account takes less time than they spent reporting you)
but anyway - just laugh at them - its much more fun !
Sounds like you have some passion for politics? Just don't use that passion as our elected officials use it. They are consumed with greed and will do anything for it. Greed has become the cancer of our nation and our government. Look for better ways to channel your views and always stay calm.
How about you take a break from obsessing over the trivialities behind movies and just remember this one fact:
It's just a movie.
And remember - Sparta was around like 3000 years ago! We've changes a lot since then (for the better).
Yeah don't get too frustrated with it. Politicians will send you crazy. Look to the flowers and the blue sky and the clam rippling ocean. Cheers!
I don't think the sex lives of people who lived over 2000 years ago is politics, I am not even sure it is history.
Take a break, like you said you would a few minutes ago.
Try going to Polls %26amp; Surveys and do some silly stuff.
You may want to consider meds, but they don't seem to work for me.
don't worry i left her a wise comment.
get drunk, get laid, gamble. go on leave like a sailor on payday.
If it really bothers you, my advice is to get a life. I come here for Liberal comedy and debate.acne scars treatment
I think it's best to get a break from politics ... any suggestions besides music , movies and what not ?I think I am get too emotional about politics ? Any advice ?
stay out of yahoo answers for a little while... Pop into the yahoo chat rooms and Play trivia....
AND go out and make sure you take the time to smell the roses and study the ants... both are very the rapeutic (sp)I think I am get too emotional about politics ? Any advice ?
Trying to get through to liberals, is a lot like shouting at the ground.
Its much more fun to laugh and make fun of them
of course, then they report you and get you suspended (as if creating another account takes less time than they spent reporting you)
but anyway - just laugh at them - its much more fun !
Sounds like you have some passion for politics? Just don't use that passion as our elected officials use it. They are consumed with greed and will do anything for it. Greed has become the cancer of our nation and our government. Look for better ways to channel your views and always stay calm.
How about you take a break from obsessing over the trivialities behind movies and just remember this one fact:
It's just a movie.
And remember - Sparta was around like 3000 years ago! We've changes a lot since then (for the better).
Yeah don't get too frustrated with it. Politicians will send you crazy. Look to the flowers and the blue sky and the clam rippling ocean. Cheers!
I don't think the sex lives of people who lived over 2000 years ago is politics, I am not even sure it is history.
Take a break, like you said you would a few minutes ago.
Try going to Polls %26amp; Surveys and do some silly stuff.
You may want to consider meds, but they don't seem to work for me.
don't worry i left her a wise comment.
get drunk, get laid, gamble. go on leave like a sailor on payday.
If it really bothers you, my advice is to get a life. I come here for Liberal comedy and debate.
I need some advice about a track race!?
I have a track race next week but I have done the race before but now I am doing different events like the 4x200 or the 800 meter dash. OMG!!! I need help. sOMEONE HELP ME PLZ!!!I need some advice about a track race!?
Relax, breathe, and have fun!I need some advice about a track race!?
It should all be the same thing... running
Relax, breathe, and have fun!I need some advice about a track race!?
It should all be the same thing... running
I need legal advice about my puppy?
My ex boyfriend bought a puppy for me and his daughter. I picked out the dog, paid for him, and have the bill of sale in my name. He did later reimburse me the money for the dog, b/c it was a gift. since that time, I have had to leave the relationship, I took my other dog and the pup with me. He has health problems and is unable to care for the pup. He also only gets his daughter every other weekend. I have been the one to provide food care and love for the pup. He's been away sick, and I have the pup in my posession. Now he is calling threating to come and get the pup, or that i have to return him. Stating that it is his daughters dog and not mine. I know he is only doing this to hurt me. BUT I need to know if he does in fact have legal right for the dog. I have told him I would pay him back for the dog. But he states its not mine. Even though, there were conversations that the dog was mine too. HELP!!I need legal advice about my puppy?
Don't fall for it. Keep the dog.I need legal advice about my puppy?
Sounds like a problem for Judge Judy.
It might be a good thing to just give him the pup. You mention you already have a dog and that he is sick AND that his daughter has attachments to the dog too. Seeing that he is sick it might be good for him to have a friend around (pup), it also may teach him some responsibility. He reimbursed you for the dog so there's no financial loss there. I'm not a lawyer but sometimes it's better to just let go. I understand you may have attachments to the pup too but just let it go. You don't have to ';win'; this. You're right and he is wrong and acting out. He sounds like a tired, sick man who lost his lady and his dog. Do him a favor, give him the pup, wish him the best and be done with him.
It just depend on your determine !!!!
No legal advice here. However, have you ever thought that he is asking for the dog back for his ';daughter'; and not to hurt you.
Try the following website
http://www.usalegalcare.com/Child_custod鈥?/a>
Real simple deal. It sounds as though the pup was indeed a gift. Advise him that if he wants the pup back that he will have to take you to court, further advise him that you will counter sue for boarding the pup. Ultimately I do believe you would win a court decision just based on the fact that you have a bill of sale showing proof of ownership. As long as when he repaid you you did not give him a reciept or accepted payment by cheque money order etc.
This may seem a little underhanded but that is life.
I hope this helps.
Best of luck with your problem.
If he is unable to care for the dog then you should keep him, get a restraining order if you must. However, if he can care for the puppy then you should be the bigger person, give the dog to the child and get the man out of your life forever.
Tater---
Seems to me that all the answers are in the above threads... Use your head and not your heart and the right thing will prevail. I know your strong enough and with patience and diligence your worries will soon disappear. Do what you know is right.
you know who this is....
Me
You have the receipt. And...you have the burden of proof. Don't pay the freak for anything. You have the daughter and the puppy stays with the child. Explain this in court. You should be fine.
Don't fall for it. Keep the dog.I need legal advice about my puppy?
Sounds like a problem for Judge Judy.
It might be a good thing to just give him the pup. You mention you already have a dog and that he is sick AND that his daughter has attachments to the dog too. Seeing that he is sick it might be good for him to have a friend around (pup), it also may teach him some responsibility. He reimbursed you for the dog so there's no financial loss there. I'm not a lawyer but sometimes it's better to just let go. I understand you may have attachments to the pup too but just let it go. You don't have to ';win'; this. You're right and he is wrong and acting out. He sounds like a tired, sick man who lost his lady and his dog. Do him a favor, give him the pup, wish him the best and be done with him.
It just depend on your determine !!!!
No legal advice here. However, have you ever thought that he is asking for the dog back for his ';daughter'; and not to hurt you.
Try the following website
http://www.usalegalcare.com/Child_custod鈥?/a>
Real simple deal. It sounds as though the pup was indeed a gift. Advise him that if he wants the pup back that he will have to take you to court, further advise him that you will counter sue for boarding the pup. Ultimately I do believe you would win a court decision just based on the fact that you have a bill of sale showing proof of ownership. As long as when he repaid you you did not give him a reciept or accepted payment by cheque money order etc.
This may seem a little underhanded but that is life.
I hope this helps.
Best of luck with your problem.
If he is unable to care for the dog then you should keep him, get a restraining order if you must. However, if he can care for the puppy then you should be the bigger person, give the dog to the child and get the man out of your life forever.
Tater---
Seems to me that all the answers are in the above threads... Use your head and not your heart and the right thing will prevail. I know your strong enough and with patience and diligence your worries will soon disappear. Do what you know is right.
you know who this is....
Me
You have the receipt. And...you have the burden of proof. Don't pay the freak for anything. You have the daughter and the puppy stays with the child. Explain this in court. You should be fine.
I need some advice about this?
So i want a boyfriend really bad but i dont know if im comofortable yet because im not comfortable with myself. i feel like this cuz even when my guys friends give me a hug i dont like them touching me because i dont like my body. i dont know how toget over this for when i have a boyfriendI need some advice about this?
do something about your body. if your over weight don't be lazy exercise and diet.
do something about your body. if your over weight don't be lazy exercise and diet.
I need advice about this guy i like
ok so ive known him since 2nd grade haha (were 14 now) bc he lives down the st frm me and so weve been ok friends that whole time but this past yr weve gotten to be better friends i guess and im starting to rele like him but idk if he feels tht way about me. my mom thinks he likes me haha but im not trusting that one bit haha. last time i tlkd to him was when we txtd for a rele long time last wk and at the end of our conversation hes like ';ill talk to you later tho'; and so like yesterday i txtd him hey whats up and he nvr replyed =((( so idk whats up. i see him tomorow bc theres open house and ill def try and tlk to him there. but idk if i should tell him i like him i think i have a rele good chance with him im just scared to find out it might ruin everything ..wht should i do???I need advice about this guy i like
You should just go up to him and kiss him. If he kisses you back, then he's definitely into you, if he doesn't, then just tell him that you've wanted to do that for a long time and you decided to just kiss him and get it out of the way so you don't have to think about it anymore.
You should just go up to him and kiss him. If he kisses you back, then he's definitely into you, if he doesn't, then just tell him that you've wanted to do that for a long time and you decided to just kiss him and get it out of the way so you don't have to think about it anymore.
I need advice about wills and estates.?
My father is potentially dying. He is not telling anyone the truth about his condition, but a nurse did say 'cancer' one day. And, he isn't even on chemotherapy-I don't understand it either. But, I have a feeling my dad will leave me his house. I don't want his house because he owes some company over $16,000 that he borrowed to have the windows on the house replaced several years ago. Can I refuse to accept the house so I don't get stuck with his debt if he dies?I need advice about wills and estates.?
An inheritance can be disclaimed if it is done within 90 days after the probate of the estate.I need advice about wills and estates.?
The debts of the estate will have to be settled before the heirs get anything at all.
If the estate doesn't have enough liquidity to handle the debts of the deceased, the property will have to be sold at market or auction to raise the funds needed to pay off the debts.
Any property or funds remaining after that goes to the heirs as stipulated in the will.
If there are not enough assets in the estate to pay the debts, then you won't get stuck with it; the creditors are out of luck.
Or, you could sell the house, pay off the debt, and keep the balance.
Yes. You're under no obligation to accept the will.
An inheritance can be disclaimed if it is done within 90 days after the probate of the estate.I need advice about wills and estates.?
The debts of the estate will have to be settled before the heirs get anything at all.
If the estate doesn't have enough liquidity to handle the debts of the deceased, the property will have to be sold at market or auction to raise the funds needed to pay off the debts.
Any property or funds remaining after that goes to the heirs as stipulated in the will.
If there are not enough assets in the estate to pay the debts, then you won't get stuck with it; the creditors are out of luck.
Or, you could sell the house, pay off the debt, and keep the balance.
Yes. You're under no obligation to accept the will.
I need advice about a girl that i like?
ok, now her friends have told me she likes me to, and would love to be with me.. if i was only a little older.
see, i look and act so much older than what i am.. i often get mistaken for being 16.. when im only 14.
what should i do?
i just can't get her out of my head!!!
and we are really good friends as well!I need advice about a girl that i like?
If you like her a lot then you should be able to wait for a year or two until she feels comfortable with dating you. You already have a good friendship with her so keep it up and wait. If you can't wait then just tell her how you feel, tell he that age doesn't matter when you like someone.acne scars treatment
see, i look and act so much older than what i am.. i often get mistaken for being 16.. when im only 14.
what should i do?
i just can't get her out of my head!!!
and we are really good friends as well!I need advice about a girl that i like?
If you like her a lot then you should be able to wait for a year or two until she feels comfortable with dating you. You already have a good friendship with her so keep it up and wait. If you can't wait then just tell her how you feel, tell he that age doesn't matter when you like someone.
PLEASE HELP ME I NEED ADVICE ABOUT ASKING A GIRL OUT!!!!!?
I like this girl in my class, but I'm not sure how to make a move. Should I be friends with her? PLEASE HELP ME FAST!
PS: Let's Say I'm Already Friends With One Of The Girls I Like. Should I Ignore Her, Or Flirt Shamelessly.PLEASE HELP ME I NEED ADVICE ABOUT ASKING A GIRL OUT!!!!!?
go up to her and say this: ';my friends are going to [a cool hang out place of your choice] on [a day and time] i'd like it if you came.';
She will see that as just being sociable and her defenses will be down. Make it seem like you are so excited to do that with your friends, hopefully your friends are not the type of guys she can't stand. If that's the case, then you have to be like ';i'm going out to lunch at [a place] and would like it if you joined me for some good conversation.';
Or you can be like
Hey [name of girl] wanna hang out with me [time].
Just fill in the brackets with whatever suits you best.
Don't ignore any girls, she will think you don't care about her anymore. Especially if she is a friend. Don't flirt with girls who are your friends because it will make her feel awkward. If you are in the friend zone, you can't get out of it. only flirt with new girls, and do it right from the beginning.
Hope this helps.
Girls answer mine, ten points!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>PLEASE HELP ME I NEED ADVICE ABOUT ASKING A GIRL OUT!!!!!?
Here are my steps in getting a girl.
Step 1. Construct a Happy Birthday invitation with your name and an address to your house.
Step 2. Hand her the invitation
Step 3. Brag about how badass your party is goin to be (little does she know, shes the only one invited).
Step 4. Once she arrives and sees noone is their cept you, start to cry.
Step 5. She'll feel really sorry, at this point she will be vulnerable. This is the part where you run your game.
flirt and hint that u like her find out if she likes u then ask her out if she says no dont stalk that will scare her and ask her yourself dont get friends involved thats usually awkward
Get the balance right between friendliness and flirting, dont act like a macho ******** around her and also dont act like a sensitive gay, give her little indications that u are attracted to her. Touchy feely stuff....get in there, good luck!
Complemently flirt with her and ask out please!
You cannot go unnoticed, buy losing her friendship and embarrassing your fine self; is a no no. Tell her in a conversation that you went out of your way to post the question, tell her ';look I like your firendship, but I also like you a little more. I didn't want this to affect anything.'; Be honest she will appreciate it. I would!!!!!!
Flirt flirt flirt! go up to her and be like ';What's cooking good looking?'; us girls love that!
Stand outside her window at night and blast Pete Gabriel
aw cute! x)
just don't make it formal! :D
go up to her and b like ';hey! i was wondering if maybe u'd like to (ex.) go to the movies with me sometime (or go to a cafe or go to the beach or go to dinner';i don't think dinner would b best espeically if ur nervous! BAD idea';)
so just go with something super casual that freinds would do and then if she says no or wtvr then just b like ';ok kool cya round'; or somthin. don't make it a big deal! :D if u do it WILL b! :D good luck!
relationships always last a little longer when people get to know each other first... so b friends and c what she likes flirt (not over flirt) over flirting gets annoying later show her u like her thn make the move dont ever move to fast
UM..... my advice is to never say ';whats cookin' good lookin''; us girls don't love that.
And yes i would say be friends with her, just be cordial and polite. Ask her questions. That always works.
And if your single you flirt as much as your little heart desires. Just as long as your not leading anyone on, because thats a big NO NO.
friends and what do you look like i'll give you hints on what to dress like im 12 the age of OMG THOSE SHOES ARE SO CUTE i like his hair yah and the we make tha style
It's more simple than you think. but NEVER make friends with her. or else you will be stucked in the FRIENDS ZONE. FLIRT and learn how to do it. play hard to get. tease her. make fun of her. make her laugh. and never let her know about your feelings. act as if you just don't care. she will eventually come to you. the more you play hard to get the more she will fall for you. IT WORKS ALL THE TIME.
YES you should get acquainted and become her friend first, to get a feel for how things could go, and how you like her personality before you ask her out.
as for the other girl, don't ignore her and don't flirt either, if who you want is the first girl. you should just be friends with her too...
do not ignore her. flirt, be sweet, open doors for her, ask her how shes feeling, whats on her mind. just be really nice, but don't over do it.
PS: Let's Say I'm Already Friends With One Of The Girls I Like. Should I Ignore Her, Or Flirt Shamelessly.PLEASE HELP ME I NEED ADVICE ABOUT ASKING A GIRL OUT!!!!!?
go up to her and say this: ';my friends are going to [a cool hang out place of your choice] on [a day and time] i'd like it if you came.';
She will see that as just being sociable and her defenses will be down. Make it seem like you are so excited to do that with your friends, hopefully your friends are not the type of guys she can't stand. If that's the case, then you have to be like ';i'm going out to lunch at [a place] and would like it if you joined me for some good conversation.';
Or you can be like
Hey [name of girl] wanna hang out with me [time].
Just fill in the brackets with whatever suits you best.
Don't ignore any girls, she will think you don't care about her anymore. Especially if she is a friend. Don't flirt with girls who are your friends because it will make her feel awkward. If you are in the friend zone, you can't get out of it. only flirt with new girls, and do it right from the beginning.
Hope this helps.
Girls answer mine, ten points!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>PLEASE HELP ME I NEED ADVICE ABOUT ASKING A GIRL OUT!!!!!?
Here are my steps in getting a girl.
Step 1. Construct a Happy Birthday invitation with your name and an address to your house.
Step 2. Hand her the invitation
Step 3. Brag about how badass your party is goin to be (little does she know, shes the only one invited).
Step 4. Once she arrives and sees noone is their cept you, start to cry.
Step 5. She'll feel really sorry, at this point she will be vulnerable. This is the part where you run your game.
flirt and hint that u like her find out if she likes u then ask her out if she says no dont stalk that will scare her and ask her yourself dont get friends involved thats usually awkward
Get the balance right between friendliness and flirting, dont act like a macho ******** around her and also dont act like a sensitive gay, give her little indications that u are attracted to her. Touchy feely stuff....get in there, good luck!
Complemently flirt with her and ask out please!
You cannot go unnoticed, buy losing her friendship and embarrassing your fine self; is a no no. Tell her in a conversation that you went out of your way to post the question, tell her ';look I like your firendship, but I also like you a little more. I didn't want this to affect anything.'; Be honest she will appreciate it. I would!!!!!!
Flirt flirt flirt! go up to her and be like ';What's cooking good looking?'; us girls love that!
Stand outside her window at night and blast Pete Gabriel
aw cute! x)
just don't make it formal! :D
go up to her and b like ';hey! i was wondering if maybe u'd like to (ex.) go to the movies with me sometime (or go to a cafe or go to the beach or go to dinner';i don't think dinner would b best espeically if ur nervous! BAD idea';)
so just go with something super casual that freinds would do and then if she says no or wtvr then just b like ';ok kool cya round'; or somthin. don't make it a big deal! :D if u do it WILL b! :D good luck!
relationships always last a little longer when people get to know each other first... so b friends and c what she likes flirt (not over flirt) over flirting gets annoying later show her u like her thn make the move dont ever move to fast
UM..... my advice is to never say ';whats cookin' good lookin''; us girls don't love that.
And yes i would say be friends with her, just be cordial and polite. Ask her questions. That always works.
And if your single you flirt as much as your little heart desires. Just as long as your not leading anyone on, because thats a big NO NO.
friends and what do you look like i'll give you hints on what to dress like im 12 the age of OMG THOSE SHOES ARE SO CUTE i like his hair yah and the we make tha style
It's more simple than you think. but NEVER make friends with her. or else you will be stucked in the FRIENDS ZONE. FLIRT and learn how to do it. play hard to get. tease her. make fun of her. make her laugh. and never let her know about your feelings. act as if you just don't care. she will eventually come to you. the more you play hard to get the more she will fall for you. IT WORKS ALL THE TIME.
YES you should get acquainted and become her friend first, to get a feel for how things could go, and how you like her personality before you ask her out.
as for the other girl, don't ignore her and don't flirt either, if who you want is the first girl. you should just be friends with her too...
do not ignore her. flirt, be sweet, open doors for her, ask her how shes feeling, whats on her mind. just be really nice, but don't over do it.
Does someone have any good advice about off & on relationships.?
Each relationship is different but I think that in most cases like that either both or one of you are not really sure of what you want or what you are looking for in a relationship. Ask yourself what you want and need and if the other person fills that need, if not then more on and the person that does.
Timing is important too, you might be with the right person at the wrong time. These are the relationships that hurt so much to leave.Does someone have any good advice about off %26amp; on relationships.?
Yes, they don't work. Somesone always gets hurt in the end.Does someone have any good advice about off %26amp; on relationships.?
Date other people more than this person, who's off %26amp; on again. Make less time for them to effect you.
They suck. They only end up hurting you and are a waste of time.
relationship is like a journey. there will be ups and downs in it. if you overcome the downs that's why you're getting back together, and this is a good sign. if it's really down, down and can't get over it then that's the end of it.
The main question you should ask is this:
Why is the relationship on and off? Is it because the both of you become scared in the face of commitment? Is it because you grow tired of each other, only to decide to give it another go? Is it because you choose to see other people?
Whatever the reason, it needs to be pinpointed fast.
Think of turning a light bulb on and off over and over again; eventually it will burn out.
If you are going to be together and try to make a meaningful relationship together, remember that building a house and tearing it down again will never give you a place to live.
in an off and on relationship its best tht u can handle it. its also best tht u ain't a flirt
quit them all together. get one that works well for both of you so that you can be happy.
The thing about on and off casual relationships is that you need to keep your emotions out of the equation. If you have feeling for this person - walk, if it is more about great sex and companionship and you have a tight reign on your emotions, if your both clear about what is offered on the table stay and have fun!
Yeah,
move on.
I'm sure that a lot of people do, but you have to ask the question first.
FROM FIRSTHAND EXPERIENCE: it will never be even 75% on, so save yourself time and stress, get out before it's too late! Find someone who you mesh well with and you will be so much happier in the long run (again coming from personal experience). I took me four years, two children, and a divorce to realize this on my own; please let my mistakes help you! RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!! good luck. =)
ya need to decide if ya really want to be together and keep it on and if not then go yas separate ways
THEY JUST CAUSE A LOT OF HEARTACHE AND ANGER LATER ON.
you should never be used to this kind of situation. if you really love the person then go ahead and settle your differences. on and off relationships just makes the two persons used to leaving whenever they want to and not willing to sacrifice for each other. they'll just think..i can get away with this by breaking up with her/him then would realize that he/she still loves him/her then when there's a problem there it goes again. both of you should learn to patch things up by talking and not run away by breaking up.
You got to learn and try to understaand him..You might feel that inside that you are a quite person,buyt the way you talk to him bit by bit and the way you talk to him. He may feel that way...
Your both have to sit donw 1 daay and talk about the way your feel towards each other and learn and try to work things out. If not they might become worst for the both og you, really.
I advice that your must learn to feel for each other, Learn to understand each other. Then things will work out just fine for both of you.
Then You got to Find it he.she your true love.?
What is true love?
True love? or a lustful kind of love? There is a difference.
True love? The world stops around you when you look into the eyes of the one you love. No one else, nothing else seems important, but the connection that is you share with this person. And you can feel it in thier eyes. As if when they stare back into yours, that they are saying without speaking, ';I adore you, respect you, desire you, admire you';. True love is when you connect on a level that makes you want to do everything you can to make that person happy, and that they do the same in return. It is a powerful feeling, when the world stops around the two of you. You will know it.
Lustful kind of love is much different. Its the feeling that omg I have to have that person, they are so very attractive, and that I think I am in love with them. Its a false true love.
You will feel love for him in time.
That love is connection.,YOu can tell him by passing him notes.or leaving him a message.! take it slowly my friend.do that if you are shy.talk to him ,call him,,,relate your feelings towards him.he will start to understand and like you.
remember
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
yup time to go find someone new yup yup yup
yeah eventually you will have to say that's enough..I have been in an off and on relationship.. the last time we broke up i told him i was done and that i was going to start dating other people..he was very upset but i meant it...i dated a few people nothing serious but i loved him and he still loved me we talked things out and we have been together since...this may not work for everyone but it did for me..
Maybe you two should ask yourselves, not What are we doing?, but What are we AVOIDING?
you need to think where you want this relationship to lead to in the future, if you don't want it to go far, i would just end it and be friends with the other person in the relationship
they don't last..
a guy and i were like that one time, he ended up breaking my heart. so the best advice would be to dump him b/c hes gonna dump you in the long run.
I think you 2 should sit down and talk things between each other and see how things go. If not maybe you and that person don't need to be together.
The only advice I can give is take each break up and connection and view it thoroughly. Because its obvious that neither one of you are getting the right thing out of your relationship exp. Or you both are too scared to move on too another relationship out of fear that you will not be accepted.
Timing is important too, you might be with the right person at the wrong time. These are the relationships that hurt so much to leave.Does someone have any good advice about off %26amp; on relationships.?
Yes, they don't work. Somesone always gets hurt in the end.Does someone have any good advice about off %26amp; on relationships.?
Date other people more than this person, who's off %26amp; on again. Make less time for them to effect you.
They suck. They only end up hurting you and are a waste of time.
relationship is like a journey. there will be ups and downs in it. if you overcome the downs that's why you're getting back together, and this is a good sign. if it's really down, down and can't get over it then that's the end of it.
The main question you should ask is this:
Why is the relationship on and off? Is it because the both of you become scared in the face of commitment? Is it because you grow tired of each other, only to decide to give it another go? Is it because you choose to see other people?
Whatever the reason, it needs to be pinpointed fast.
Think of turning a light bulb on and off over and over again; eventually it will burn out.
If you are going to be together and try to make a meaningful relationship together, remember that building a house and tearing it down again will never give you a place to live.
in an off and on relationship its best tht u can handle it. its also best tht u ain't a flirt
quit them all together. get one that works well for both of you so that you can be happy.
The thing about on and off casual relationships is that you need to keep your emotions out of the equation. If you have feeling for this person - walk, if it is more about great sex and companionship and you have a tight reign on your emotions, if your both clear about what is offered on the table stay and have fun!
Yeah,
move on.
I'm sure that a lot of people do, but you have to ask the question first.
FROM FIRSTHAND EXPERIENCE: it will never be even 75% on, so save yourself time and stress, get out before it's too late! Find someone who you mesh well with and you will be so much happier in the long run (again coming from personal experience). I took me four years, two children, and a divorce to realize this on my own; please let my mistakes help you! RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!! good luck. =)
ya need to decide if ya really want to be together and keep it on and if not then go yas separate ways
THEY JUST CAUSE A LOT OF HEARTACHE AND ANGER LATER ON.
you should never be used to this kind of situation. if you really love the person then go ahead and settle your differences. on and off relationships just makes the two persons used to leaving whenever they want to and not willing to sacrifice for each other. they'll just think..i can get away with this by breaking up with her/him then would realize that he/she still loves him/her then when there's a problem there it goes again. both of you should learn to patch things up by talking and not run away by breaking up.
You got to learn and try to understaand him..You might feel that inside that you are a quite person,buyt the way you talk to him bit by bit and the way you talk to him. He may feel that way...
Your both have to sit donw 1 daay and talk about the way your feel towards each other and learn and try to work things out. If not they might become worst for the both og you, really.
I advice that your must learn to feel for each other, Learn to understand each other. Then things will work out just fine for both of you.
Then You got to Find it he.she your true love.?
What is true love?
True love? or a lustful kind of love? There is a difference.
True love? The world stops around you when you look into the eyes of the one you love. No one else, nothing else seems important, but the connection that is you share with this person. And you can feel it in thier eyes. As if when they stare back into yours, that they are saying without speaking, ';I adore you, respect you, desire you, admire you';. True love is when you connect on a level that makes you want to do everything you can to make that person happy, and that they do the same in return. It is a powerful feeling, when the world stops around the two of you. You will know it.
Lustful kind of love is much different. Its the feeling that omg I have to have that person, they are so very attractive, and that I think I am in love with them. Its a false true love.
You will feel love for him in time.
That love is connection.,YOu can tell him by passing him notes.or leaving him a message.! take it slowly my friend.do that if you are shy.talk to him ,call him,,,relate your feelings towards him.he will start to understand and like you.
remember
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
yup time to go find someone new yup yup yup
yeah eventually you will have to say that's enough..I have been in an off and on relationship.. the last time we broke up i told him i was done and that i was going to start dating other people..he was very upset but i meant it...i dated a few people nothing serious but i loved him and he still loved me we talked things out and we have been together since...this may not work for everyone but it did for me..
Maybe you two should ask yourselves, not What are we doing?, but What are we AVOIDING?
you need to think where you want this relationship to lead to in the future, if you don't want it to go far, i would just end it and be friends with the other person in the relationship
they don't last..
a guy and i were like that one time, he ended up breaking my heart. so the best advice would be to dump him b/c hes gonna dump you in the long run.
I think you 2 should sit down and talk things between each other and see how things go. If not maybe you and that person don't need to be together.
The only advice I can give is take each break up and connection and view it thoroughly. Because its obvious that neither one of you are getting the right thing out of your relationship exp. Or you both are too scared to move on too another relationship out of fear that you will not be accepted.
I'm going to europe soon and i need advice about oddjobs.?
basically i'm going to europe and im gonna have to work oddjobs to be able to pay the hostel so where should i work ( e.g. restruaunt as a waiter) how should i go about getting the job (e.g. application, walkin interview etc.) and how much do you think i may make?I'm going to europe soon and i need advice about oddjobs.?
Well, first you're going to need a work permit, so that will limit the countries you can work and kind of jobs you can do. Then write to a temp agency in advance telling them where you'll be, what your skills are, and when you'll be there. That way you can have work automatically set up.
your best deal is to contact several hotels to see if they do live-in work situations - I had a friend who worked in hotels, lived there for free and had a stipend also.I'm going to europe soon and i need advice about oddjobs.?
Forget the permit. If you're European, you don't need one, if you're not, you're not going to get one. Yes, work in bars or restaurants is certainly a possibility, especially in some tourist areas. There are ';Help wanted'; signs quite often, you just walk in and apply. Much depends on where you're going, too. In my hometown, eg, they employ street sweepers (in summer) and snow shovelers (in winter) as needed on a per-day basis, no questions asked.
Well, first you're going to need a work permit, so that will limit the countries you can work and kind of jobs you can do. Then write to a temp agency in advance telling them where you'll be, what your skills are, and when you'll be there. That way you can have work automatically set up.
your best deal is to contact several hotels to see if they do live-in work situations - I had a friend who worked in hotels, lived there for free and had a stipend also.I'm going to europe soon and i need advice about oddjobs.?
Forget the permit. If you're European, you don't need one, if you're not, you're not going to get one. Yes, work in bars or restaurants is certainly a possibility, especially in some tourist areas. There are ';Help wanted'; signs quite often, you just walk in and apply. Much depends on where you're going, too. In my hometown, eg, they employ street sweepers (in summer) and snow shovelers (in winter) as needed on a per-day basis, no questions asked.
Help please...I need some advice about my husband?
My husband is deployed right now. He has been gone for about a month and he is on a four month deployment. Im going to be by myself, and I have been suffering from depression for a little while now. Well, my family hates me because of it, and I am so close to killing myself. I just can't hold back anymore. I just need him here with me. I dont know what else to do anymore. Is there any way at all I could get him home?Help please...I need some advice about my husband?
Get off the computer and go get help. Now. There are support groups for wives of military personnel. But get to a doctor or mental health specialist now. Don't wait. Please. Email me and let me know how you are doing.Help please...I need some advice about my husband?
Okay, honestly, we both know that you have to be at least a little bit excited for that wonderful day that he comes home. There have to be a few times that catch yourself smiling uncontrollably and squeaking to yourself because you're so excited. A four month deployment? That's really not much honey. my husband is deployed for a year to Iraq and he just left also. You need to concentrate on what you have to look forward to. Concentrate on how much this is going to be worth it! Military wives do get plenty of resources while their soldier is deployed and I would take advantage of it, I did and it helps. Keep your chin up too, everyone understands that this really sucks for you right now so don't think that they are snubbing you, they just don't like being around such a downer so if I were you I would really work on putting on a face for your family. After all, deployments affect so many people and you wouldn't want his deployment to affect your family too in a negative way. Best of luck to you!
I don't know if you can get him home. when you talk to him next time tell him how you fell. my boyfriend leaves for a while because hes job. i get depressed a lot because he ain't home much. i talk to god and ask him for help in dealing with my depression. i get lonely a lot you don't want to end your life because you will leave your husband all a lone. maybe you could talk to some one about your depression. it helps me when i talk to some one. it helps me to talk to god.
find a support group for others in your position. I am sure there are others in your area that are like that. Check with the Chaplin or the community bullitan board and see what kind of social groups there are.
It is hard for you to be seperated. All you can really do is pray about it and for your husband, and get support.
If there are no support groups, start one. Have a bunch of the ladies come to your house and have a luncheon and get to know them.
Don't ever feel like you are alone. You are not. I have a few friends whos husbands have been over. I also have a dear friend that I worry about that is over there. If he were my husband, I would be going crazy myself. Worrying about him. But there are others who are in your shoes. You just need to find them and get to know them.
Does your unit have a family support group? If not, always remember things are never as bad as they seem. If you previously had a good relationship with your family please share with them how you feel. Don't hold it inside for them. You will not do your family or anyone else any favors if you die. I am sure your family loves you. They just don't understand what you are going through. If you go to church talk to someone their. Three months will pass faster than you might believe. If you clear your mind and get out and find a hobby you will have the chance to grow as a person.
I'm sorry but he can't come home. Please go see the Chaplain. Even if you don not attend church, the Chaplain is there to help. If you aren't comfortable seeing the Chaplain go to the Family Support Center and speak with them. You can even call Military One Source a1-800-342-9647
and speak with a counselor for free and it's confidential. Yes, it is hard and you don't have to do this alone.
He is a military man and you knew this when you married him. he is not always going to be there. He is not always going to be with you. You need to be strong not only for yourself but for your family. I'm sure that he is not having the most fabulous time either. Hang in there.
hi hun, I am the girlfriend of a Marine, and I know how it feels to be alone! I have a sister who also suffers from depression and I know that it is not your fault, but darling it is never bad enough to take your life away. Your husband would tell you to keep your chin up and he'll be home soon. I belong to a WONDERFUL group from yahoo, its called USMCgals... even if your husband isn't in the Marines we're people to talk to ! Please if it that serious call the help line that someone else mentioned.. please please please I can tell you from experience it is never worth it to hurt everyone who loves you (especially your man).. and if you need to talk privately e-mail me !! xoxox stay strong hun!
I don't have a husband nor is my boyfriend in the army, navy or anything like that.... But listen, you made a commitment to him and I'm sure he needs your support. You have to stay strong and find something YOU like to do. Keep your mind busy, find a hobby.. Having a husband who is fighting for our country is a great thing, I'm sure you new this day was coming....and no one wants to feel alone. I really think you need to find it inside yourself to be the strong woman you know you can be for the next 3 months. After all your not the only women in America whose husband is deployed right now... Be strong and email me if you ever need to talk...
Don't do anything like killing yourself. People love you.Talk about your feelings. Your family should not cast stones your way. You have every right to feel the way you do. Your husband should be with you and anyone would feel depressed. Call your doctor and make an appointment .Call a friend and go out for lunch. You need someone to lean on.
You need to be treated for your depression. If you feel like you are on the edge call 1-800-suicide to get some help right now. You can also check out this site for support and help....http://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/M鈥?/a>
You need to try and be strong. Go seek medical help. Try to keep yourself busy while he is gone. Go to school, get a job, start a hobby.
It's very hard to be away from the ones you love. Not just for you but him too. It doesn't justify what he did or excuse it, so don't do the same thing in hurt or anger. Find Other military wives, preferably someone who is older and has been around the military for a while. These women can be very helpful. They have been through it all.
Good luck to you.
Go see the chaplain. Then get involved in some volunteer work. Helping others will take your mind off your own problems, and help you pass the time waiting for your husband. There are plenty of people out there that need the help.
no. please dont even attempt it. i am a marine wife. its really not fair to him for you to do that, obviously you have not been doing this for very long. but trust me it does get better. the hardest time was when my husband left for boot camp. since then he has been on three deployments and is deployed right now. it gets easier every time i promise. look for wives to talk to friends... just dont tell him anything sad.
by trying to figure out how you can get him to come home it stresses him out more, im sure he wants to be home with you too but he cant.. he is doing his job and taking care of the people around him, and you at home at the same time by keeping the country safe. if you constantly complain about how much you miss him it is only distracting to him and he wont be able to focus on what he needs to focus on and very well could wind up getting shot in the face. its blunt but those were the exact words my husband told me when i first complained. tell him that you love him, tell him that you miss him, and tell him that you are okay and that the rest of the time is gonna fly by. talk about the weather, it doesnt matter just not stressful subjects. he needs to take care of himself and not be worried about you, they are NOT going to let him come home, and even if you did kill yourself they would allow him to come home for two weeks and send him right back over. someone i knows wife died in a car accident and thats exactly what happened.. what do you think would happen to your husband in that situation?? don't be that selfish.. your gonna need to learn if you want your marriage to work, you cant make your husband choose. when the guys with him find out that you cant deal with it they will make fun of him and probably call him weak and what not. i dont know what branch hes in but thats how the marine corps works.
best of luck.
take antidepressants.. lexapro works wonders
a guy in my husbands platoons wife pulled stuff to get him to not go on deployment.. (they caught on.. she was miraculously in the er whenever he was in the field or on duty.. always with something different she had all these symptoms but no actual problems like faiting and blacking out which she eventually admitted to not having to certain people) he is now getting a humanitarian discharge. everyone wishes they didnt have to leave their families but they still do. the guys no longer consider him one of them, they barely speak to him, he gets treated like dirt and gets less respect than a private when he is an nco.
there's no way that he can come home, but you need to get some help for yourself. look into counseling through military one source (you get 6 free sessions). also, give yourself little milestones to look forward to during the deployment instead of focusing on him being gone. just little things, like meeting a friend on the weekend, someone's birthday two weeks down the road, etc. also, set some goals to get done before he comes home, like cleaning out all the junk in your house, learning a new hobby (cooking fun food to send to your husband is always good!), etc. believe me, you'll get through this, and you'll do good!
another thing i suggest is writing your husband everyday, be it snail mail or email, and just tell him about the everyday. treat it like he just got home from work and you're telling him all about your day. even though you may not get a response back very often, it helps you to feel connected to him and him to feel connected to his life back home.
these are all things that have helped me through the deployment so far, we're only 6 months into a 15 month deployment. i'm currently pregnant with our first kid, so after next month, i'll have lots to do, but right now, i'm all by myself, so i just use these tips to pass time and stay strong/happy.
Get off the computer and go get help. Now. There are support groups for wives of military personnel. But get to a doctor or mental health specialist now. Don't wait. Please. Email me and let me know how you are doing.Help please...I need some advice about my husband?
Okay, honestly, we both know that you have to be at least a little bit excited for that wonderful day that he comes home. There have to be a few times that catch yourself smiling uncontrollably and squeaking to yourself because you're so excited. A four month deployment? That's really not much honey. my husband is deployed for a year to Iraq and he just left also. You need to concentrate on what you have to look forward to. Concentrate on how much this is going to be worth it! Military wives do get plenty of resources while their soldier is deployed and I would take advantage of it, I did and it helps. Keep your chin up too, everyone understands that this really sucks for you right now so don't think that they are snubbing you, they just don't like being around such a downer so if I were you I would really work on putting on a face for your family. After all, deployments affect so many people and you wouldn't want his deployment to affect your family too in a negative way. Best of luck to you!
I don't know if you can get him home. when you talk to him next time tell him how you fell. my boyfriend leaves for a while because hes job. i get depressed a lot because he ain't home much. i talk to god and ask him for help in dealing with my depression. i get lonely a lot you don't want to end your life because you will leave your husband all a lone. maybe you could talk to some one about your depression. it helps me when i talk to some one. it helps me to talk to god.
find a support group for others in your position. I am sure there are others in your area that are like that. Check with the Chaplin or the community bullitan board and see what kind of social groups there are.
It is hard for you to be seperated. All you can really do is pray about it and for your husband, and get support.
If there are no support groups, start one. Have a bunch of the ladies come to your house and have a luncheon and get to know them.
Don't ever feel like you are alone. You are not. I have a few friends whos husbands have been over. I also have a dear friend that I worry about that is over there. If he were my husband, I would be going crazy myself. Worrying about him. But there are others who are in your shoes. You just need to find them and get to know them.
Does your unit have a family support group? If not, always remember things are never as bad as they seem. If you previously had a good relationship with your family please share with them how you feel. Don't hold it inside for them. You will not do your family or anyone else any favors if you die. I am sure your family loves you. They just don't understand what you are going through. If you go to church talk to someone their. Three months will pass faster than you might believe. If you clear your mind and get out and find a hobby you will have the chance to grow as a person.
I'm sorry but he can't come home. Please go see the Chaplain. Even if you don not attend church, the Chaplain is there to help. If you aren't comfortable seeing the Chaplain go to the Family Support Center and speak with them. You can even call Military One Source a1-800-342-9647
and speak with a counselor for free and it's confidential. Yes, it is hard and you don't have to do this alone.
He is a military man and you knew this when you married him. he is not always going to be there. He is not always going to be with you. You need to be strong not only for yourself but for your family. I'm sure that he is not having the most fabulous time either. Hang in there.
hi hun, I am the girlfriend of a Marine, and I know how it feels to be alone! I have a sister who also suffers from depression and I know that it is not your fault, but darling it is never bad enough to take your life away. Your husband would tell you to keep your chin up and he'll be home soon. I belong to a WONDERFUL group from yahoo, its called USMCgals... even if your husband isn't in the Marines we're people to talk to ! Please if it that serious call the help line that someone else mentioned.. please please please I can tell you from experience it is never worth it to hurt everyone who loves you (especially your man).. and if you need to talk privately e-mail me !! xoxox stay strong hun!
I don't have a husband nor is my boyfriend in the army, navy or anything like that.... But listen, you made a commitment to him and I'm sure he needs your support. You have to stay strong and find something YOU like to do. Keep your mind busy, find a hobby.. Having a husband who is fighting for our country is a great thing, I'm sure you new this day was coming....and no one wants to feel alone. I really think you need to find it inside yourself to be the strong woman you know you can be for the next 3 months. After all your not the only women in America whose husband is deployed right now... Be strong and email me if you ever need to talk...
Don't do anything like killing yourself. People love you.Talk about your feelings. Your family should not cast stones your way. You have every right to feel the way you do. Your husband should be with you and anyone would feel depressed. Call your doctor and make an appointment .Call a friend and go out for lunch. You need someone to lean on.
You need to be treated for your depression. If you feel like you are on the edge call 1-800-suicide to get some help right now. You can also check out this site for support and help....http://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/M鈥?/a>
You need to try and be strong. Go seek medical help. Try to keep yourself busy while he is gone. Go to school, get a job, start a hobby.
It's very hard to be away from the ones you love. Not just for you but him too. It doesn't justify what he did or excuse it, so don't do the same thing in hurt or anger. Find Other military wives, preferably someone who is older and has been around the military for a while. These women can be very helpful. They have been through it all.
Good luck to you.
Go see the chaplain. Then get involved in some volunteer work. Helping others will take your mind off your own problems, and help you pass the time waiting for your husband. There are plenty of people out there that need the help.
no. please dont even attempt it. i am a marine wife. its really not fair to him for you to do that, obviously you have not been doing this for very long. but trust me it does get better. the hardest time was when my husband left for boot camp. since then he has been on three deployments and is deployed right now. it gets easier every time i promise. look for wives to talk to friends... just dont tell him anything sad.
by trying to figure out how you can get him to come home it stresses him out more, im sure he wants to be home with you too but he cant.. he is doing his job and taking care of the people around him, and you at home at the same time by keeping the country safe. if you constantly complain about how much you miss him it is only distracting to him and he wont be able to focus on what he needs to focus on and very well could wind up getting shot in the face. its blunt but those were the exact words my husband told me when i first complained. tell him that you love him, tell him that you miss him, and tell him that you are okay and that the rest of the time is gonna fly by. talk about the weather, it doesnt matter just not stressful subjects. he needs to take care of himself and not be worried about you, they are NOT going to let him come home, and even if you did kill yourself they would allow him to come home for two weeks and send him right back over. someone i knows wife died in a car accident and thats exactly what happened.. what do you think would happen to your husband in that situation?? don't be that selfish.. your gonna need to learn if you want your marriage to work, you cant make your husband choose. when the guys with him find out that you cant deal with it they will make fun of him and probably call him weak and what not. i dont know what branch hes in but thats how the marine corps works.
best of luck.
take antidepressants.. lexapro works wonders
a guy in my husbands platoons wife pulled stuff to get him to not go on deployment.. (they caught on.. she was miraculously in the er whenever he was in the field or on duty.. always with something different she had all these symptoms but no actual problems like faiting and blacking out which she eventually admitted to not having to certain people) he is now getting a humanitarian discharge. everyone wishes they didnt have to leave their families but they still do. the guys no longer consider him one of them, they barely speak to him, he gets treated like dirt and gets less respect than a private when he is an nco.
there's no way that he can come home, but you need to get some help for yourself. look into counseling through military one source (you get 6 free sessions). also, give yourself little milestones to look forward to during the deployment instead of focusing on him being gone. just little things, like meeting a friend on the weekend, someone's birthday two weeks down the road, etc. also, set some goals to get done before he comes home, like cleaning out all the junk in your house, learning a new hobby (cooking fun food to send to your husband is always good!), etc. believe me, you'll get through this, and you'll do good!
another thing i suggest is writing your husband everyday, be it snail mail or email, and just tell him about the everyday. treat it like he just got home from work and you're telling him all about your day. even though you may not get a response back very often, it helps you to feel connected to him and him to feel connected to his life back home.
these are all things that have helped me through the deployment so far, we're only 6 months into a 15 month deployment. i'm currently pregnant with our first kid, so after next month, i'll have lots to do, but right now, i'm all by myself, so i just use these tips to pass time and stay strong/happy.
Experienced movers and those in the industry, give me advice about an upcoming big move for us.?
The packers are coming tomorrow and I plant o feed them all day, bagels in the morning, burgers for lunch, etc. I plan to tip the driver heavily in the sight of the packers just before they leave. I plan to be on hand (or my husband) for the packing. The anxiety is driving me to drink! Give me your wisdom!Experienced movers and those in the industry, give me advice about an upcoming big move for us.?
Keep an eye on them every minute. Make sure someone follows them to your destination. Hope it all works out.
Keep an eye on them every minute. Make sure someone follows them to your destination. Hope it all works out.
Where can i moan? get advice about interupting husband?
i was halfway through a sentence and hes in there like a rocket telling me how wrong i am. he didnt know how my sentence would finish but jumped in to correct what he very wrongly guessed i was saying. twice tonight hes done this. i fight back but whats the point? im p*ssed off with itWhere can i moan? get advice about interupting husband?
Try gently saying - could I finish the sentence I was about to make please. You have no idea what I was thinking, or what I was about to say.
If this doesn't work; try hitting him with a large stick - that should stop him in his tracks.
EDIT OK apologise about the stick!!!
have you tried doing the same to him - interrupting everything he has to say, when he complains tell him - 'now you know how I feel'Where can i moan? get advice about interupting husband?
If you have told him calmly that you don't like it when he interrupts you and he continues to do it... you have a choice..
Live with it ... or.....Live without it.... your choice.
Most men have an A.S.D. problem,where they are on the spectrum is variable.Autistic Spectum Disorder.
He doesn't respect you.
Does this happen all the time? If so maybe he feels inferior to you thinking he needs to prove you wrong. If not, Remove yourself from home (if you can) and ask him to go grab a coffee with you if it's out of his character, somethings bugging him it may be you , may not be but somethings under his skin.
Well then, he needs to deal with his issues because they are not yours to own Hun. Your other half should compliment your life not create it, if him interrupting you is a constant (which is so rude and you must be soooo frustrated), live for yourself just as you did before you met him and if he can not see that he is doing this or isnt willing to work though it you I guess have the choice to leave or to stay and all I can say in the end, make sure what you choose is for you and what makes you happy.
i have the same problem i sometimes let it go if its not worth it but if it is then i argue till im blue in the face i dont get y its ok for guys to b wrong but when were wrong heaven forbid
Do the exact opposite. It floors them once they get the gist of what's happening. Takes self-control on your part, but it becomes empowering. When he interrupts, at that exact moment STOP. Don't say another word. At all. Don't finish what you had to say, at least not that day, unless he begs (it has been known!) He'll begin to get frustrated and learn to listen until you have completed what you're saying!
i'm not married but all i can suggest is you either wait until he has calmed down (he might have had a hard day at work or stressed out and wrongly taking it out on you) and calmly tell him that he is p***ing you off by butting in when you are trying to talk and that its rude or when he does it again just grab him and kiss him passionatley - he'll be so shocked he'll wonder what you were saying before! then when he says what was that for? you just say ' i just love it when you express yourself so strongly but darling please dont but in when im talking again cos its really annoying!' try those and see what happens
Mess with his head.
Go, hey hon, I have something I want to say, and walk away. When he asks what did you want to say just go, oh, I thought you already knew, because, I'm sure you're going to tell me I'm wrong.....
So, never mind....and go take a shower....
Or start your sentence, let him interrupt, go, ';Oh.'; when he's done and go take a shower. No feed back. Just ';Oh.';
Effective communication isn't going to happen anyway, so it might as well be funny.
are they not all the same ??????? :)
I think your husband is a bigamist, cos he sounds exactly like mine. But i'm sure i just dropped mine off up the pub tonight!! Don't worry i think its that all men like to get the last word, even though that word isn't always the right one. In the end i just turn round and say ';go on then you finish what i was saying'; and walk away.acne scars treatment
Try gently saying - could I finish the sentence I was about to make please. You have no idea what I was thinking, or what I was about to say.
If this doesn't work; try hitting him with a large stick - that should stop him in his tracks.
EDIT OK apologise about the stick!!!
have you tried doing the same to him - interrupting everything he has to say, when he complains tell him - 'now you know how I feel'Where can i moan? get advice about interupting husband?
If you have told him calmly that you don't like it when he interrupts you and he continues to do it... you have a choice..
Live with it ... or.....Live without it.... your choice.
Most men have an A.S.D. problem,where they are on the spectrum is variable.Autistic Spectum Disorder.
He doesn't respect you.
Does this happen all the time? If so maybe he feels inferior to you thinking he needs to prove you wrong. If not, Remove yourself from home (if you can) and ask him to go grab a coffee with you if it's out of his character, somethings bugging him it may be you , may not be but somethings under his skin.
Well then, he needs to deal with his issues because they are not yours to own Hun. Your other half should compliment your life not create it, if him interrupting you is a constant (which is so rude and you must be soooo frustrated), live for yourself just as you did before you met him and if he can not see that he is doing this or isnt willing to work though it you I guess have the choice to leave or to stay and all I can say in the end, make sure what you choose is for you and what makes you happy.
i have the same problem i sometimes let it go if its not worth it but if it is then i argue till im blue in the face i dont get y its ok for guys to b wrong but when were wrong heaven forbid
Do the exact opposite. It floors them once they get the gist of what's happening. Takes self-control on your part, but it becomes empowering. When he interrupts, at that exact moment STOP. Don't say another word. At all. Don't finish what you had to say, at least not that day, unless he begs (it has been known!) He'll begin to get frustrated and learn to listen until you have completed what you're saying!
i'm not married but all i can suggest is you either wait until he has calmed down (he might have had a hard day at work or stressed out and wrongly taking it out on you) and calmly tell him that he is p***ing you off by butting in when you are trying to talk and that its rude or when he does it again just grab him and kiss him passionatley - he'll be so shocked he'll wonder what you were saying before! then when he says what was that for? you just say ' i just love it when you express yourself so strongly but darling please dont but in when im talking again cos its really annoying!' try those and see what happens
Mess with his head.
Go, hey hon, I have something I want to say, and walk away. When he asks what did you want to say just go, oh, I thought you already knew, because, I'm sure you're going to tell me I'm wrong.....
So, never mind....and go take a shower....
Or start your sentence, let him interrupt, go, ';Oh.'; when he's done and go take a shower. No feed back. Just ';Oh.';
Effective communication isn't going to happen anyway, so it might as well be funny.
are they not all the same ??????? :)
I think your husband is a bigamist, cos he sounds exactly like mine. But i'm sure i just dropped mine off up the pub tonight!! Don't worry i think its that all men like to get the last word, even though that word isn't always the right one. In the end i just turn round and say ';go on then you finish what i was saying'; and walk away.
Why do women ask for advice about their bad husbands and then tell us they aren't leaving them?
Because the horns on their husbands' heads fit perfectly into the holes in the wives' heads. Plus she needs his paycheck, thinks she can't get anyone else, or believes that it's best for the kids if they stay together regardless of how rotten the marriage is.Why do women ask for advice about their bad husbands and then tell us they aren't leaving them?
Sometimes its easier to ask for advice but not take it. Sometimes, it's a way of crying out for help...and sometimes they cannot see the bad in their husbands or whom ever, they cannot see themselves ever living without them, they really love them and are in love with them...sometimes, they think that things can get better.
But all you can do is support them really. Be honest and dont agree with the bad, but be there.Why do women ask for advice about their bad husbands and then tell us they aren't leaving them?
asking for advice about how to make your marriage work doesn't mean you are asking for advice on how to leave. They are asking how to make it work. These days at the drop of a hat people get divorces. I think most people forget that the promise you made was for life and through thick and thin not 'I promise till he starts acting like a jerk, then I will take some stranger's advice and leave him.' We usually are asking how to get him to realize he is being a jerk.
Unless he is cheating or hitting the girl, you shouldn't advize divorce anyway :P
When they say, ';BUT, I love him';...he beats me every day, but I love him...he cheats, and is going to continue cheating, but I love him....it drives me nuts when they do that. You know they are going to continue living in that mess, regardless of what he does....due to lack of self esteem, fear of the unknown, too many kids, and the list goes on and on....
Because there are other options besides leaving them. Most people don't suggest the ';harder'; options because they assume that the poster has already tried those.
And some people...I don't know why....when they said for better or worse until death do us part....really did freaking mean it.
Some women don't know how to leave, they stay in these relationships because they feel that he is the best she can do, and that they can't make it on their own
Just because someone is told to leave a bad marriage does not always mean that they can. It is always easy to give advice but sometimes hard to take advice.
Beacause usually they are uneducated, unskilled, insecure or just like drama.
Most of those women are only good at spitting out kids.
Because some wives don't leave their husbands based on what a bunch of strangers of the world tell them...they just want our point of view and advice.
The thought of leaving him sounds great to them but then they just can't get up enough courage to do it.
insecure.
really good question
they want someone to hold their hand and call their husbands bad names
That's a good question.
Sometimes its easier to ask for advice but not take it. Sometimes, it's a way of crying out for help...and sometimes they cannot see the bad in their husbands or whom ever, they cannot see themselves ever living without them, they really love them and are in love with them...sometimes, they think that things can get better.
But all you can do is support them really. Be honest and dont agree with the bad, but be there.Why do women ask for advice about their bad husbands and then tell us they aren't leaving them?
asking for advice about how to make your marriage work doesn't mean you are asking for advice on how to leave. They are asking how to make it work. These days at the drop of a hat people get divorces. I think most people forget that the promise you made was for life and through thick and thin not 'I promise till he starts acting like a jerk, then I will take some stranger's advice and leave him.' We usually are asking how to get him to realize he is being a jerk.
Unless he is cheating or hitting the girl, you shouldn't advize divorce anyway :P
When they say, ';BUT, I love him';...he beats me every day, but I love him...he cheats, and is going to continue cheating, but I love him....it drives me nuts when they do that. You know they are going to continue living in that mess, regardless of what he does....due to lack of self esteem, fear of the unknown, too many kids, and the list goes on and on....
Because there are other options besides leaving them. Most people don't suggest the ';harder'; options because they assume that the poster has already tried those.
And some people...I don't know why....when they said for better or worse until death do us part....really did freaking mean it.
Some women don't know how to leave, they stay in these relationships because they feel that he is the best she can do, and that they can't make it on their own
Just because someone is told to leave a bad marriage does not always mean that they can. It is always easy to give advice but sometimes hard to take advice.
Beacause usually they are uneducated, unskilled, insecure or just like drama.
Most of those women are only good at spitting out kids.
Because some wives don't leave their husbands based on what a bunch of strangers of the world tell them...they just want our point of view and advice.
The thought of leaving him sounds great to them but then they just can't get up enough courage to do it.
insecure.
really good question
they want someone to hold their hand and call their husbands bad names
That's a good question.
Desperate advice about college?
I transferred to a 4 year private college from... community college (which was like a vacation).
Anyways, I need major help.
History = SNORE.
Big test this Friday, I need to ACE it.
The questions are essay.
I hate history and I think it's horribly boring.
How can I read all the text (four chapters worth in our books)
And RETAIN it all?!?!?!?!!??!!?!??!?!!?
HEEELLLLPPPPP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEe (O_O)Desperate advice about college?
If history is boring, it's because either your teacher doesn't present it well, or you're just not paying attention and playing connect the dots. History can be a lot of fun!
Read each page and take notes about what will most likely be on the test. Once you've read the entire chapter, write out your impression about the subject matter -- just try and condense the topic into a few lines of rough facts. Trying to remember every last stinking date and tid-bit of garbage will only drive you crazy.
Remember, when you write an essay, you need to make it a flowing statement from one paragraph into the next about what you know. Tossing in a few of those rough facts as supporting evidence will go along way to convincing your prof. that you know your stuff.
Get with someone else who has also read the material and talk about it with them -- don't get off topic, it'll only waste your time and accomplish nothing.
You don't have to prove that you know everything, but rather, that you've read and understood the assignment.
I once had to read (and then write a report for) 32 books in one semester. It can be done.Desperate advice about college?
Focus on headlines and think about their generic topic. Get flashcards and write down dates, people, and places to test yourself. If there is a study guide, pay attention to it. If the professor has given any tips, do them. If there are study groups, join them.
Here's a thought for you. Get off the computer and start reading.
Whining on Y!A isn't going to help you.
Anyways, I need major help.
History = SNORE.
Big test this Friday, I need to ACE it.
The questions are essay.
I hate history and I think it's horribly boring.
How can I read all the text (four chapters worth in our books)
And RETAIN it all?!?!?!?!!??!!?!??!?!!?
HEEELLLLPPPPP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEe (O_O)Desperate advice about college?
If history is boring, it's because either your teacher doesn't present it well, or you're just not paying attention and playing connect the dots. History can be a lot of fun!
Read each page and take notes about what will most likely be on the test. Once you've read the entire chapter, write out your impression about the subject matter -- just try and condense the topic into a few lines of rough facts. Trying to remember every last stinking date and tid-bit of garbage will only drive you crazy.
Remember, when you write an essay, you need to make it a flowing statement from one paragraph into the next about what you know. Tossing in a few of those rough facts as supporting evidence will go along way to convincing your prof. that you know your stuff.
Get with someone else who has also read the material and talk about it with them -- don't get off topic, it'll only waste your time and accomplish nothing.
You don't have to prove that you know everything, but rather, that you've read and understood the assignment.
I once had to read (and then write a report for) 32 books in one semester. It can be done.Desperate advice about college?
Focus on headlines and think about their generic topic. Get flashcards and write down dates, people, and places to test yourself. If there is a study guide, pay attention to it. If the professor has given any tips, do them. If there are study groups, join them.
Here's a thought for you. Get off the computer and start reading.
Whining on Y!A isn't going to help you.
Need advice about my co worker?
Today I was working at my job as a math tutor, and we had our weekly tutoring meeting, while there I got to socialize with a few of my collegues and one of them was a girl I had not seen very much because she works in the residence halls and I don't. This is a very pretty girl and I would like to get to know her better, but the thing that turned me on the most about her was her feet. Now I'm not really big on feet at all, I usually think a foot fetish is kind of gross, but with her, I found myself checking out her feet, like...really liking how they looked and fantasizing about touching and massaging them. Weird..anyway..any idea why I suddenly developed this fetish? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.Need advice about my co worker?
You might be fearful of expressing your true feelings to her, so you are creating a diversion to allay your fears.
Make it a point to approach her and engage her in a meaningful conversation.
If she responds positively, your fetish should diminish.
If she doesn't respond favorably, you need to accept what is and move on.
You might be fearful of expressing your true feelings to her, so you are creating a diversion to allay your fears.
Make it a point to approach her and engage her in a meaningful conversation.
If she responds positively, your fetish should diminish.
If she doesn't respond favorably, you need to accept what is and move on.
Need advice about Fleas?
I just called my Vet for advice, he told me that if I don't want to spend $45 for the 4 months supplies for frontline/advantage. As he has seen my kitten just yesterday and he told me that my kitten should not have fleas so this problem should be a minor one. He suggested that I bring my kitten over there and he would spray sometihng on her?
Does my vet know what he is doing?Need advice about Fleas?
How cheap are you that $45 is a ';lot of money'; to take care of your kitten for FOUR MONTHS?
Yes - your vet knows what he's doing. He's giving an alternative for a cheap client. But this will only kill fleas ON the kitten - it will NOT kill the fleas in your home. Fleas don't live on cats - they only hop on them to feed. So if your kitten has fleas you also have them in your rug, bedding, throws, etc.
If $45 is truly too much for you then sorry - you have no business having this kitten.Need advice about Fleas?
Whatever you do, don't keep the cat in your basement. Fleas multiply and fester in closed areas.
Does my vet know what he is doing?Need advice about Fleas?
How cheap are you that $45 is a ';lot of money'; to take care of your kitten for FOUR MONTHS?
Yes - your vet knows what he's doing. He's giving an alternative for a cheap client. But this will only kill fleas ON the kitten - it will NOT kill the fleas in your home. Fleas don't live on cats - they only hop on them to feed. So if your kitten has fleas you also have them in your rug, bedding, throws, etc.
If $45 is truly too much for you then sorry - you have no business having this kitten.Need advice about Fleas?
Whatever you do, don't keep the cat in your basement. Fleas multiply and fester in closed areas.
Any advice about these auditions i have?? :)?
Hi guys,
Tonight i've got two auditions for the first time ever, and im so pleased because i've got 2 in one night! :D But the things is one of them is a photo shoot which im pleased about because i don't mind that, but the other one is for a new tv series coming out called ';Bo and the Spirit World'; i have no acting experience, i have never been to stage school or nothing. But i want it so bad!
Can anyone help?
Any advice?
Thanksss :] xxxxxAny advice about these auditions i have?? :)?
Charlie J's response was going well until they gave the advice to ';lie';. NEVER LIE...You'll be found out within minutes, especially when you claim to have been in something, and the casting team throw you a trick question (it happens).
One great moment of untruth was when Michael Caine claimed to have played George in 'George and Margaret'. But he was caught out by the fact that George never appeared in the play.
If an ';audition'; is a photoshoot, it's not an audition. it's just a cattle call, where a casting director is trying to whittle down the field to the people who meet his criteria for a character's physicality, rather than acting ability. Once the physical side is over and done with, the casting - and real auditioning - will kick in.
I echo the sentiments of others when I say it's over ambitious to attend an audition for a new television series if you have no previous acting experience. There are too many people who believe that acting is solely about learning and delivering lines. Truth is, it ain't that simple. There's a hell of a lot more behind the scenes, and that's why professional actors invest time and money in actor training - not just for the initial 3 or 4 years, but for the whole of their career.Any advice about these auditions i have?? :)?
Hi
Good luck in your auditions
First of all (for the TV audition) they may make u say your name and where you live to the camera, they may then make u read a script to the camera - (dont look at the person asking the question - sooooo many people do this) try to project your voice - but don't shout and use facial expressions
you should warm your voice and mouth
you can do this by - pretending your chewing a really chewy toffee, opening your mouth as wide as you can - then scrunching your face really small, saying these phrases - cup, love, mother and toop,tope,torp,tarp,tape,teep
Sounds stupid but it really works!
Finally make sure you listen really carefully and ask questions if you're not sure about something - this shows initative and that your interested.
Good Luck again!!!!!!!! =) x
If you have time get an acting coach that can help you a bit on acting, other wise:
Stay Positive
Don't act fake, like too perky
Smile
Try to find a script of the TV show so you know the character you'd be trying for
Be yourself
If you are cold-reading then make sure to look up from the skit a lot and react to what the other person is saying
Follow along in the script using a finger so you don't lose your place
Have Fun! It's your first audition so even if you don't get it it's great experience and Break a Leg!
First TV/acting audition tonight....OK.
I am sure that you know it is normal to have a resume and ';head shot'; when you go on such an iaudition. (Head shot being an 8x10 closeup of you face.) Always have a couple extras just in case.
While it varies from audtion to audition, it is always best to have a prepared piece for the interview. A monologue you have memorized and can perform for them, usually 1 1/2 mintue to 3 minutes in length. Make sure it shows off your best acting talent (are you funny, serious, silly, whimsical, etc.). Do a Google for ';audition monologues'; and you will find quite a few free ones you can use.
If the part will involve singing or dancing, have a song ready, and the sheet music for the accomplist to use.
Dress appropriately for the part you are hoping for. Such as a ';Hanana Montana'; layers/loud look for a teen show, or a respectable business outfit for a ';drama';. etc. You want them to see you are they type of character they are casting.
As this is for a new show, there is (unfortunately) no way to get your hands on a copy of the script in advance. Should you audition again for existing shows or plays, try to get your hands on a script (libraries can get most stage plays) and read it in advance, so you know what the character is like and can be prepared to give them what the character needs.
Good luck.....
Well, Im not trying to sound demeaning, but going to an audition for a role in a tv series with no previous desire to act, or no other experience is slightly naive. Maybe I've misunderstood you and your not just in it for some fame and spotlight of being on tv, so i'll try and give some advice.
1) don't overdo you make up or try and be too revealing in what you wear. they do want to see some of your personality, but people also like working with a blank canvas.
2) For your audition, the acting part, If you have to bring in pieces to use to audition with make sure youve learn the lines, noone likes somone whos underprepared.
3) Be yourself
4) Smile
5) if asked about your previous acting experience, lie. otherwise you will sound a little silly. dont lie about things you've done, but make it sound like something you have though long and hard about for a while now, but nothing right has appealed to you until now.
6) be polite, but not boring. dont be cheeky, but show the energy in you.
I was thrown in at the deep end at the age of 14 when I auditioned for two parts (one speaking, and one singing) with the Royal Shakespeare Theatre in Stratford. I got 5 months work out of it, and then never acted professionally (except the odd film or video extra role and a couple of other bits %26amp; pieces) since.
It is a pure lottery. Chance. Luck. The director will have in his or her mind the sort of character they are looking for, and the trick is to be the closest to fit this fantasy image, which may be changing with the whim of the director. It is impossible to mind-read the director. Instead, enjoy it and improvise, and above all be natural. Whatever goes wrong (and if you are lucky it will!), you can show you can improvise your way out of trouble.
At my audition, I sang a verse of Greensleeves, and we were then all given a coat hanger and told to improvise a sketch on the spot. I used mine as a pools coupon, a letterbox to post the coupon into, the teleprinter giving the results, and the winning cheque. We also read out a few passages of what we were up for, and the director asked me to put the lines in a different way. You then try very hard to do precisely what the director has asked, however ridiculous it seems.
I think the reason I got the part was because I had never been to stage school, and so I did not have that hyper eager look, fine for TV commercials, but hopeless for Shakespeare. Also, they did not have to shell out on a wig, since my hair was blonde and long enough to suit the character I was playing. The other thing was that I have a naturally loud voice and had some coaching in projection, so few people had difficulty hearing me at the far end of the theatre. TV is much more intimate, and you need to talk as if your audience were in your living room.
Good luck, and above all else, enjoy yourself!
Tonight i've got two auditions for the first time ever, and im so pleased because i've got 2 in one night! :D But the things is one of them is a photo shoot which im pleased about because i don't mind that, but the other one is for a new tv series coming out called ';Bo and the Spirit World'; i have no acting experience, i have never been to stage school or nothing. But i want it so bad!
Can anyone help?
Any advice?
Thanksss :] xxxxxAny advice about these auditions i have?? :)?
Charlie J's response was going well until they gave the advice to ';lie';. NEVER LIE...You'll be found out within minutes, especially when you claim to have been in something, and the casting team throw you a trick question (it happens).
One great moment of untruth was when Michael Caine claimed to have played George in 'George and Margaret'. But he was caught out by the fact that George never appeared in the play.
If an ';audition'; is a photoshoot, it's not an audition. it's just a cattle call, where a casting director is trying to whittle down the field to the people who meet his criteria for a character's physicality, rather than acting ability. Once the physical side is over and done with, the casting - and real auditioning - will kick in.
I echo the sentiments of others when I say it's over ambitious to attend an audition for a new television series if you have no previous acting experience. There are too many people who believe that acting is solely about learning and delivering lines. Truth is, it ain't that simple. There's a hell of a lot more behind the scenes, and that's why professional actors invest time and money in actor training - not just for the initial 3 or 4 years, but for the whole of their career.Any advice about these auditions i have?? :)?
Hi
Good luck in your auditions
First of all (for the TV audition) they may make u say your name and where you live to the camera, they may then make u read a script to the camera - (dont look at the person asking the question - sooooo many people do this) try to project your voice - but don't shout and use facial expressions
you should warm your voice and mouth
you can do this by - pretending your chewing a really chewy toffee, opening your mouth as wide as you can - then scrunching your face really small, saying these phrases - cup, love, mother and toop,tope,torp,tarp,tape,teep
Sounds stupid but it really works!
Finally make sure you listen really carefully and ask questions if you're not sure about something - this shows initative and that your interested.
Good Luck again!!!!!!!! =) x
If you have time get an acting coach that can help you a bit on acting, other wise:
Stay Positive
Don't act fake, like too perky
Smile
Try to find a script of the TV show so you know the character you'd be trying for
Be yourself
If you are cold-reading then make sure to look up from the skit a lot and react to what the other person is saying
Follow along in the script using a finger so you don't lose your place
Have Fun! It's your first audition so even if you don't get it it's great experience and Break a Leg!
First TV/acting audition tonight....OK.
I am sure that you know it is normal to have a resume and ';head shot'; when you go on such an iaudition. (Head shot being an 8x10 closeup of you face.) Always have a couple extras just in case.
While it varies from audtion to audition, it is always best to have a prepared piece for the interview. A monologue you have memorized and can perform for them, usually 1 1/2 mintue to 3 minutes in length. Make sure it shows off your best acting talent (are you funny, serious, silly, whimsical, etc.). Do a Google for ';audition monologues'; and you will find quite a few free ones you can use.
If the part will involve singing or dancing, have a song ready, and the sheet music for the accomplist to use.
Dress appropriately for the part you are hoping for. Such as a ';Hanana Montana'; layers/loud look for a teen show, or a respectable business outfit for a ';drama';. etc. You want them to see you are they type of character they are casting.
As this is for a new show, there is (unfortunately) no way to get your hands on a copy of the script in advance. Should you audition again for existing shows or plays, try to get your hands on a script (libraries can get most stage plays) and read it in advance, so you know what the character is like and can be prepared to give them what the character needs.
Good luck.....
Well, Im not trying to sound demeaning, but going to an audition for a role in a tv series with no previous desire to act, or no other experience is slightly naive. Maybe I've misunderstood you and your not just in it for some fame and spotlight of being on tv, so i'll try and give some advice.
1) don't overdo you make up or try and be too revealing in what you wear. they do want to see some of your personality, but people also like working with a blank canvas.
2) For your audition, the acting part, If you have to bring in pieces to use to audition with make sure youve learn the lines, noone likes somone whos underprepared.
3) Be yourself
4) Smile
5) if asked about your previous acting experience, lie. otherwise you will sound a little silly. dont lie about things you've done, but make it sound like something you have though long and hard about for a while now, but nothing right has appealed to you until now.
6) be polite, but not boring. dont be cheeky, but show the energy in you.
I was thrown in at the deep end at the age of 14 when I auditioned for two parts (one speaking, and one singing) with the Royal Shakespeare Theatre in Stratford. I got 5 months work out of it, and then never acted professionally (except the odd film or video extra role and a couple of other bits %26amp; pieces) since.
It is a pure lottery. Chance. Luck. The director will have in his or her mind the sort of character they are looking for, and the trick is to be the closest to fit this fantasy image, which may be changing with the whim of the director. It is impossible to mind-read the director. Instead, enjoy it and improvise, and above all be natural. Whatever goes wrong (and if you are lucky it will!), you can show you can improvise your way out of trouble.
At my audition, I sang a verse of Greensleeves, and we were then all given a coat hanger and told to improvise a sketch on the spot. I used mine as a pools coupon, a letterbox to post the coupon into, the teleprinter giving the results, and the winning cheque. We also read out a few passages of what we were up for, and the director asked me to put the lines in a different way. You then try very hard to do precisely what the director has asked, however ridiculous it seems.
I think the reason I got the part was because I had never been to stage school, and so I did not have that hyper eager look, fine for TV commercials, but hopeless for Shakespeare. Also, they did not have to shell out on a wig, since my hair was blonde and long enough to suit the character I was playing. The other thing was that I have a naturally loud voice and had some coaching in projection, so few people had difficulty hearing me at the far end of the theatre. TV is much more intimate, and you need to talk as if your audience were in your living room.
Good luck, and above all else, enjoy yourself!
Need advice about older job hunters????
I have experience in clerical work plus many years in manufacturing years ago.
I am signed up with staffing agencies, and they say they have nothing for me.
I just turned 50. Is that part of it?? I have no formal degree, but certified with computer applications.
Am I missing something here??Need advice about older job hunters????
Skip the staffing agencies and search for work on your own. Make sure that your resume lists your qualifications and achievements. Do not put any dates on your resume that will give a potential employer a hint at your age. The trick is to get the interview and then sell the hiring manager on why you, regardless of age, are the best candidate for the job. Good luck.Need advice about older job hunters????
Tom H has some good advice. The only thing I would add is to check with the AARP (American Association of Retired People); they maintain a database of companies that are older worker/job hunter friendly.
As a 43 YO, BS degreed individual I can feel your pain. I unfortunately earned my marketing degree during the dot.com bust. I have only worked computer desktop support positions and found many required a computer degree or numerous certifications. Many co-workers seemed to be arrogant 20 somethings. I finally gave up and went to work for myself. Contact me if you need assistance or ideas to get started or just need a friend to talk to. ~ Regards, Donacne scars treatment
I am signed up with staffing agencies, and they say they have nothing for me.
I just turned 50. Is that part of it?? I have no formal degree, but certified with computer applications.
Am I missing something here??Need advice about older job hunters????
Skip the staffing agencies and search for work on your own. Make sure that your resume lists your qualifications and achievements. Do not put any dates on your resume that will give a potential employer a hint at your age. The trick is to get the interview and then sell the hiring manager on why you, regardless of age, are the best candidate for the job. Good luck.Need advice about older job hunters????
Tom H has some good advice. The only thing I would add is to check with the AARP (American Association of Retired People); they maintain a database of companies that are older worker/job hunter friendly.
As a 43 YO, BS degreed individual I can feel your pain. I unfortunately earned my marketing degree during the dot.com bust. I have only worked computer desktop support positions and found many required a computer degree or numerous certifications. Many co-workers seemed to be arrogant 20 somethings. I finally gave up and went to work for myself. Contact me if you need assistance or ideas to get started or just need a friend to talk to. ~ Regards, Don
Need advice about my adhd child,please no negative comments?
she`s in the 3rd grade,i give her meds at school only.she`s doing great- straight a`s at 3 wk progress grades.got stern letter from teacher, saying, she isn`t a team player-with projects, organization. wants to do things herself,is this her adhd- folks, she does`nt want her without her meds- i watch her bounce, hop etc in the summer , weeknds .holidays, cause i would like her to really know herself%26amp; not depend on it .any help appreciated-thanks- she has come a long way at school.Need advice about my adhd child,please no negative comments?
Honestly, it sounds like you are doing all of the right things. You are not allowing her ADHD to control your lives, you are learning how to deal and live with it. She has shown that she is trying and is responsive to the meds. My concern is her teacher. Teachers have to be adaptable, they have to adjust to deal with the best and worst students. that is their job. She should be working with you to make school a positive experience for your daughter and offer more suggestions (do some research herself) not send a stern letter about where your child is lacking. You can switch her to a new class, or at the very least meet with the teacher and the principal. She has a job, to provide your daughter with the best education possible, and if that means adapting to her needs, then that is what she should be doing. You sound like a great Mom, your daughter is very lucky to have you.Need advice about my adhd child,please no negative comments?
Well, when do you give her ...her medicine? during the morning..try in the afternoons if you arent doing that alreay and you probably are.....instead because really in the moring i think they are still kinda slow getting around and they arent as rambucious ...Well, of coarse she isnt a team player she has ADHD..duh!!...and teachers are the worse...to suggest about giving medicines..and I know it is hard for the teacher too because she has others in the class, that she is responsible for..but she has to understand also she has to reach out to all children special ones too.....but, maybe placing her with a one on one so that the teacher can still have piece of mind...like an Aide..in the classroom..that usually helps.... and if the teacher has several slow ones in the classroom then the aide can assist them and not look like the aide is there for your little girl..see what you think about that,...hoped i helped..
I think it's natural for kids her age, not just with adhd, to play, bounce and hop etc.
It's something that needs a lot of working on, and if she got A's after 3 weeks - it seems like she's very cooperative.
Maybe siging her up on sports activities after school will help her spread the energy while learning about team playing.
I do the same thing for my son that is in 4th grade (He takes his medication on school days and not on the weekend or holidays.) It took me years of figuring out with our pediatrician what was best for him. I didn't have him on medication, and he was failing, had mood swings, wasn't a team player, and an out of control temper. Without being on medication he wouldn't even know what he did for classwork, nor what his homework was. He is doing great now. He takes Focalin and doesn't have the problems he once had. There are still some sensitivities with being a team player at school, and at home with his brother and sister, and his temper in which we are working on. I explain to him how he should work with people etc. on these issues. I give him examples on how it would help him, and although it is getting better, I have to be very consistent with him. I also have alot of discussions with his teacher, and try to work with her as to what I am doing at home, and how we can prepare him better at school (this year's teacher has been very helpful and responsive whereas other teachers he has had have not!)
Having a daughter that is older than my son, I have realized that girls like to do things themselves alot more, so I don't think that is your daughter's adhd. Even if this teacher wants her on medication, you and your doctor should be the ones to decide what is the best formula, and then try to work with the teacher like I do. Communication is key.
I think that she sounds like a fairly typical 3rd grader. Maybe just try to encourage her more to be a team player and that it is necessary to work with other kids at school. Meds are scary because you don't want them to change your child's personality, but sometimes they are necessary. It is something that you should talk to her pediatrician about. She sounds like a good kid, just keep working with her and encouraging her. It sounds like you are doing a great job.
Some kids are just VERY active and we have labeled these kids ADHD. A lot of times teachers get frustrated because they don't know how to handle these kids and they can be a disruption in class. I don't think its a good idea, in my honest opinion, to have kids on meds (or anyone one in particular unless they are schizophrenic). But I really don't think it's a good idea to have her on and off consistently. It can put a serious strain on the child's mind and body. All of that was leading up to:
Have you tried other methods, natural remedies to soothe and calm her. Or classes with professionals that will teach her skills to notice when she is starting to become anxious? There are many different alternatives other them meds. I appreciate that you want her to know her true self.
As far as the teacher, maybe you need to have a sit down with her and the principal to discuss this and come up with a good solution for everyone. Not all kids are meant to be team players, though they really should have an understanding of it. Some people just really do a better job on their own. I'm one of them. Put me In a group to accomplish a task and I clam up. Sit me down by myself to do something and I will do a fantastic job.
****************
I have a friend that is currently studying psychology. I know it's not psychiatry, but she knows a lot of the subject. I will ask her about the on/off thing. It sounds strange to me that a Dr. would think it's not harmful. I've never heard that before, though I will never claim to be an expert on the subject, it's just that from all that I've heard (my son's father was manic and bi-polar) it's all or none.
Honestly, it sounds like you are doing all of the right things. You are not allowing her ADHD to control your lives, you are learning how to deal and live with it. She has shown that she is trying and is responsive to the meds. My concern is her teacher. Teachers have to be adaptable, they have to adjust to deal with the best and worst students. that is their job. She should be working with you to make school a positive experience for your daughter and offer more suggestions (do some research herself) not send a stern letter about where your child is lacking. You can switch her to a new class, or at the very least meet with the teacher and the principal. She has a job, to provide your daughter with the best education possible, and if that means adapting to her needs, then that is what she should be doing. You sound like a great Mom, your daughter is very lucky to have you.Need advice about my adhd child,please no negative comments?
Well, when do you give her ...her medicine? during the morning..try in the afternoons if you arent doing that alreay and you probably are.....instead because really in the moring i think they are still kinda slow getting around and they arent as rambucious ...Well, of coarse she isnt a team player she has ADHD..duh!!...and teachers are the worse...to suggest about giving medicines..and I know it is hard for the teacher too because she has others in the class, that she is responsible for..but she has to understand also she has to reach out to all children special ones too.....but, maybe placing her with a one on one so that the teacher can still have piece of mind...like an Aide..in the classroom..that usually helps.... and if the teacher has several slow ones in the classroom then the aide can assist them and not look like the aide is there for your little girl..see what you think about that,...hoped i helped..
I think it's natural for kids her age, not just with adhd, to play, bounce and hop etc.
It's something that needs a lot of working on, and if she got A's after 3 weeks - it seems like she's very cooperative.
Maybe siging her up on sports activities after school will help her spread the energy while learning about team playing.
I do the same thing for my son that is in 4th grade (He takes his medication on school days and not on the weekend or holidays.) It took me years of figuring out with our pediatrician what was best for him. I didn't have him on medication, and he was failing, had mood swings, wasn't a team player, and an out of control temper. Without being on medication he wouldn't even know what he did for classwork, nor what his homework was. He is doing great now. He takes Focalin and doesn't have the problems he once had. There are still some sensitivities with being a team player at school, and at home with his brother and sister, and his temper in which we are working on. I explain to him how he should work with people etc. on these issues. I give him examples on how it would help him, and although it is getting better, I have to be very consistent with him. I also have alot of discussions with his teacher, and try to work with her as to what I am doing at home, and how we can prepare him better at school (this year's teacher has been very helpful and responsive whereas other teachers he has had have not!)
Having a daughter that is older than my son, I have realized that girls like to do things themselves alot more, so I don't think that is your daughter's adhd. Even if this teacher wants her on medication, you and your doctor should be the ones to decide what is the best formula, and then try to work with the teacher like I do. Communication is key.
I think that she sounds like a fairly typical 3rd grader. Maybe just try to encourage her more to be a team player and that it is necessary to work with other kids at school. Meds are scary because you don't want them to change your child's personality, but sometimes they are necessary. It is something that you should talk to her pediatrician about. She sounds like a good kid, just keep working with her and encouraging her. It sounds like you are doing a great job.
Some kids are just VERY active and we have labeled these kids ADHD. A lot of times teachers get frustrated because they don't know how to handle these kids and they can be a disruption in class. I don't think its a good idea, in my honest opinion, to have kids on meds (or anyone one in particular unless they are schizophrenic). But I really don't think it's a good idea to have her on and off consistently. It can put a serious strain on the child's mind and body. All of that was leading up to:
Have you tried other methods, natural remedies to soothe and calm her. Or classes with professionals that will teach her skills to notice when she is starting to become anxious? There are many different alternatives other them meds. I appreciate that you want her to know her true self.
As far as the teacher, maybe you need to have a sit down with her and the principal to discuss this and come up with a good solution for everyone. Not all kids are meant to be team players, though they really should have an understanding of it. Some people just really do a better job on their own. I'm one of them. Put me In a group to accomplish a task and I clam up. Sit me down by myself to do something and I will do a fantastic job.
****************
I have a friend that is currently studying psychology. I know it's not psychiatry, but she knows a lot of the subject. I will ask her about the on/off thing. It sounds strange to me that a Dr. would think it's not harmful. I've never heard that before, though I will never claim to be an expert on the subject, it's just that from all that I've heard (my son's father was manic and bi-polar) it's all or none.
Some advice about relationships please?
why can some people get into them and others not matter what cant seem to get into one, even if they are good looking attractive, succesfull, they just cant seem to get into one? is it because of trust, fear? please advise and share your views with me, thanksSome advice about relationships please?
You're gay, I'm gay, and this was on the All Planet Out weekly email about 2 days ago...woo!
Or I could be wrong (If so, sorry)
Anyways, I personally think that with all that success, some people just dont need any more happiness from a partner. They think they are happy being successful, attractive, and such.
On the other hand, if they want a relationship, and can't seem to get one, its possible their standards are set too high based off their own success, and looks.Some advice about relationships please?
trust.
You're gay, I'm gay, and this was on the All Planet Out weekly email about 2 days ago...woo!
Or I could be wrong (If so, sorry)
Anyways, I personally think that with all that success, some people just dont need any more happiness from a partner. They think they are happy being successful, attractive, and such.
On the other hand, if they want a relationship, and can't seem to get one, its possible their standards are set too high based off their own success, and looks.Some advice about relationships please?
trust.
Need advice about my love life?
I am 23 soon. About 8months ago came out from very serious realationship( 2yrs) anyway when I was with my gf, i used to tell her often '' If we broke up I dont wanna love anyone else and prefer be a single''. This is what used to tell her. Now I have moved on and enjoying life but now considering fall in love again and not sure if I wanna be with some other gf, not sure how it feels. Just start whole thing again, u what I meanNeed advice about my love life?
You have posed a number of good questions today.
In answering this question, I note from one of your other questions that your ';... man that wants breasts...';
My suggestion is don't give up your day job; clearly it pays you to much and doesn't require you to think.Need advice about my love life?
It happened to me before. I said the same thing when I was around 21. Yes, I have fallen in love again after being separated from my ex, after a year. I am loving and enjoying. Sometimes we don't see any further than the past relationship and we get hurt and just want to give up on love. You can't do that . There are going to be a lot of wrong ones and eventually you will find Ms. Right. It will happen. You got to patient and make sure that the person is who you really want and talk and date a while, at least a month to figureout what that person is really about. You can see signs at the beginning. If you can deal with it, then deal with it. If you can't leave that person alone.
You have posed a number of good questions today.
In answering this question, I note from one of your other questions that your ';... man that wants breasts...';
My suggestion is don't give up your day job; clearly it pays you to much and doesn't require you to think.Need advice about my love life?
It happened to me before. I said the same thing when I was around 21. Yes, I have fallen in love again after being separated from my ex, after a year. I am loving and enjoying. Sometimes we don't see any further than the past relationship and we get hurt and just want to give up on love. You can't do that . There are going to be a lot of wrong ones and eventually you will find Ms. Right. It will happen. You got to patient and make sure that the person is who you really want and talk and date a while, at least a month to figureout what that person is really about. You can see signs at the beginning. If you can deal with it, then deal with it. If you can't leave that person alone.
I need a guys advice! What do you like to talk about?
I really like this guy in my gym class, but I haven't talked to him yet because I have no idea what to talk about! What is a good conversation starter and how can I find out more about him through conversation without making it boring? I need some answers!I need a guys advice! What do you like to talk about?
Try to partner up with him in gym and drop hints. Or ';accidentally'; hit him with a ball or something to break the ice, then if you can find something you both have in common and start a conversation. Another thing you can do is just flat out flirt with him guys actually like this. Find something that looks good on him anddrop a line and walk away, you'll be on his mind all day.I need a guys advice! What do you like to talk about?
well guys usually like stuff like sports, but the best thing to talk about is always music.
Try to partner up with him in gym and drop hints. Or ';accidentally'; hit him with a ball or something to break the ice, then if you can find something you both have in common and start a conversation. Another thing you can do is just flat out flirt with him guys actually like this. Find something that looks good on him anddrop a line and walk away, you'll be on his mind all day.I need a guys advice! What do you like to talk about?
well guys usually like stuff like sports, but the best thing to talk about is always music.
Does it bother you the number of parents on this site that seek advice about...?
basic parenting skills. It burns me up when I see people saying things like, ';My child won't let me put a coat on them when it's 20 below zero outside';. Or ';How can get my child to stay in bed, they don't want to go to sleep and it's 2 in the morning.'; And, ';My toddler refuses to stay strapped in her carseat...'; It just drives me crazy when parents refuse to be parents! Our kids have enough friends and buddies, they need guidance and boundaries from their parents. But what always shocks me even more, is the number of people that provide them advice that just masks the real issue, ';give them candy, just put more layers of clothes on, tell them you will buy them a toy, blah blah blah';! Sorry, I'm ranting, but I can't take it anymore today. Anybody else feel me on this? Please, I'm begging you, show me there are responsible, sensible people out there who know what it takes and do what it takes to be a parent, hahahahahaha.Does it bother you the number of parents on this site that seek advice about...?
I soooo agree with you!! I keep asking myself--who is in charge?! The other day someone was asking what to do about their 3 yr. old running off every time they're in the store. This just blows my mind. I have two kids and neither of them would even THINK about running off. They know they'd be in deep pooh! I've never had them refuse to stay strapped in a carseat. Again, they know the rules and they know I'm serious. So when I see questions like the ones you've described I just don't get it. And parents who give their kids candy and toys just to shut them up deserve every amount of frustration they get. I've seen parents give in to kids so they'll be quiet. What does this teach them? It teaches them to be brattier and louder next time because it works!!
I knew a girl who was the absolute worst parent ever. She said her child refused to eat. When he was in our care he ate without issue. She said he couldn't be potty trained. When he stayed with us for a weekend he used the potty every time. She said she couldn't exercise in the morning because he'd walk over and stop the dvd player because he wanted to watch The Wiggles. She said she couldn't punish him because he refused to sit in time out. She allowed him to ruin another child's birthday party by crying and being a brat. It was a bowling party and he didn't want to take turns. He was crying and screaming and making everyone uncomfortable. She kept telling him, ';If you don't stop we're leaving.'; Everyone was hoping she'd follow through. She didn't. Just recently we were at a belt ceremony for my son's taekwondo. A mother there had a child who had to have been 3 or 4. He still had a pacifier!! AND he was screaming and carrying on in the small room and no one could hear what was being said. Do you think she bothered to get up and walk out? Nope. She continued to sit there with that screaming child.
I realize being a parent is challenging. Goodness knows I've faced some issues. It isn't easy and there are no perfect kids. But those kinds of parents are just irresponsible and lazy!Does it bother you the number of parents on this site that seek advice about...?
I think it has to do with sheer exhaustion. Sometimes you just can't think straight and really don't know what to do, even when it might be something obvious.
I think you being a bit critical don't you? I do not believe it hurts to ask for advice if needed . I can understand your agravation but some people may need a little more support thinking that maybe someone else has masterd being able to keep a child well entertained while in a car seat or saying the right things other than bribing a child with candy or toys so they'll keep their coats on and go to bed when needed. I think you as well should join my group on my 360 home page ttcdnbttteot@yahoo it's used to give advice to parents and created especially for young teens with ?'s . Happy holidays!
Basically you are saying that it is wrong for someone to seek advice on a subject that they lack information on. And that when someone does ask a simple parenting question they are then a bad parent. Ok... first... no question makes someone a bad parent. At least they are seeking information to be better at an area in their lives where they are lacking. Now hopefully they are intelligent enough to sort through the answers and pick a reasonable one.
I think that most of the people who ask questions here are really looking for an answer. And it's really rude of you to berate them because of that. Not everyone has had experience in raising children or has family around them who can help them when they seek advice.
Learn to be more tolerant, it will make you a better parent.
:)
Don't you think that this site is more of a sounding board? Yes, people should know that if it's 20 below, they have to put their child in a coat, but where else can they vent their frustrations anonymously? Who hasn't called their pediatrician for something and sat nervously waiting for a call back?
Even when we're firm and consistent and we've read every book on the subject, sometimes when our child gets up 18 times in the night, and absolutely refuses to sleep or stay in bed, we just want to know how others have coped with the same situation.
Likewise, people post answers a lot of times just to see what others think of ';their'; method.
I think a lot of the really ridiculous questions are fake or exaggerated: ';My son has a temperature of 103 and is vomiting blood, should I take him to the doctor?';
I truly hope that no parent relies on this site for serious or life-threatening questions.
i think its all balony of 12 yr olds or so!
Notice most of the people asking questions are first itme mother and the peole answering are mothers of multiple children. I wish there were more mothers out there asking questions about there children, I wish i had this when I had my first I was totally clueless (and I wouldn't have had to call my mom all the time).
These must be the same people I encounter at the grocery store and the mall. They sit there and watch their kids just stand in your way or run around screaming and they either do nothing or they simply say, in a really soft voice ';stop that,'; but they do nothing to enforce it. I'm sick to death of these bratty kids!
What bothers me just as much are all the ';I had sex two days ago... am I pregnant?'; questions on here.
Yes, it is tiresome at times to see the questions about basic parenting...but on the other hand we enjoy a forum that people feel safe enough to ask the questions and get good answers! A wonderful person once told me many years ago that the only stupid question was the one that went unasked. So as annoying as it might be or seem...ASK AWAY...there is alot of wisdom out here!
What burns me up is when mothers ask why their child has vomited twice in the last half hour. Why the hell are they on the computer and not taking care of the child? Geez, call a doctor if you need to but don't log on the computer!
yes it does bother me that so many parents refuse to ';Parent'; for the most part kids need to know somethings they have choices somethings they do not IE you have to wear a coat in the snow, do you want your blue coat or your pink coat. You have to stay in bed period no choice there. (my mom always had a saying I cant make you fall asleep but I CAN make you stay in your bed!!!)Their only choice with that is wether they want perks the following day (No child is entitled to television/cartoons/movies/phone, if they are good then they can get it, if your kid stays up all night then tv comes out of bedroom, if homework suffers because of phone calls then no phone calls,color all over the walls you wash the wall and lose your crayons, this parenting thing really isnt all that difficult.If you stop and think that real life for adults contain natural consequences (IE miss work, less money, dont do dishes nothing to eat with, dont obey boss lose job) so the best way to raise kids is with the natural consequences.
I agree. I'm not a parent yet, (my husband and I hope to be soon) however, people should know common sense and stop asking rediculous questions, as you've mentioned. You are completely right about people ';masking the real issue';.
Yeah, it does bother me. But mostly because these parents were raised by such poor parents themselves that they just were never taught the most basic of parenting skills by example.
People would be amazed what their children will do when given no other option. Parenting is extremely hard, but its also extremely simple. Consistancy is simple, sticking to it is hard.
I agree.. If you have to ask simple questions like that, you are not a good parent. I feel the same way about people asking for marriage or dating advice.. Like.. My husband cheated on me with my sister on our daughters bed while using my sex toys.. Should i divorce him? My ex-boyfriend treated me like crap, how do i get him back?
I agree with you to a certain degree. I think that now-a-days people are becoming parents when they are not ready for the responsibility. I agree that it is ridiculous when parents ask silly questions or want to know answers to common sense things. That is why children become untolerable or misguided. Children need discipline and guidance. However there is nothing wrong with people on yahoo answers answering the ';common sense questions'; because we need to give certain parents as much guidance and help as they can get. What really gets me is when people become parents too early in life or when they are not ready. I have seen mothers who can't even hold their children the correct way. If you're not ready for a child then don't have one. You bring up a very good point.
I am a single mother of a 5 year old daughter. She drives me up the wall. I do my best. I was raised by both my parents, and they are still together. I have four siblings, three of whom have their own children. None of us are perfect. We do not have all the answers when it comes to raising kids. We ask questions...sometimes we get an answer that works, sometimes we don't. Parenting is trial and error. What you do will either work, or it won't. Far be it from me to tell someone what will or won't work for their kids. Some things should definitely be common sense, like making your kid wear a coat when it's 20 below. That is when you have to make your kid understand you are right and that they shouldn't argue. My daughter tries that crap with me and she gets shut down instantly.
Some parents just need a little extra guidance, as frustrating as it may be to you, and to others. I still ask questions. I don't have all the answers, and if i did, I'd be a millionaire.
i just chalked it up to low income uneducated parents from the states *shrugs*
I totally agree with you. People are afraid to be parents. No one wants to put restrictions or limits on their children, and they aren't doing them any favours. All this New Age parenting crap about allowing children to make their own decisions and be ';individuals'; is creating a generation of kids who have no self control, no respect and no futures.
I have a friend who has a two year old daughter. This kid is out of control because my friend won't effectively parent her. The kid recently had tonsillitis and her mum wouldn't give her medicine,because her daughter ';doesn't like it';!!! Too bloody bad,I say. That kid, and those raised like her, are being set up to fail when they finally hit the real world.
Thanks for letting me rant, because I 100% agree with you.
its anoying and sometimes i think ';you dont know?';
but hey, atlest their asking for help and getting some ansewers, better then doing nothing.
This is a funny question. I think we have all wanted to say it, but feel it's mean-spirited to do so.
There a few issues. As a first-time parent, I have been lucky to have access to the very good doctors, the internet, and many friends and family members, who all give great advice. Not everyone has that luxury. Not all of us have access to great doctors, and family member or friends who actually did a good job raising their kids.
That's no excuse however. If you have the ability to ask these types of questions on yahoo answers, you also have the ability to research your questions online. There are many websites that have great advice. I use babycenter.com.
I know that some people use YA because they are too lazy to look things up themselves, but when it comes to parenting, should you really be that lazy? Obviously, these lazy parents are the same ones you refer to in your question. I would never take advice from people on YA about parenting anyway, would you?
Oh my Gosh, I totally agree. Our children need guidence, especially in todays world. They will come to thank their parents later if we are there to protect them. Children are so unprodictable that parents just need to get over themselves and realize that they will never come first now. What did they think would happen.
Yes, it seems rediculous how little some parents know when it comes to taking care of their children, BUT, at least they are seeking advice to better themselves for the sake of their children. So that doesn't really bother me. What does bother me is, like you said, the people giving them bad advice.
I agree with you to some degree. Some of the questions on here bother me or concern me: I posted a similar question last week. But I think with most parents it might be that they are frustrated and are seeking advice from other parents who may have been through the same thing and might have some words of encouragement. I try not to judge people on here or think I know their situation. The answers: well you have to take most of them with a grain of salt because not everyone is here to help.
I soooo agree with you!! I keep asking myself--who is in charge?! The other day someone was asking what to do about their 3 yr. old running off every time they're in the store. This just blows my mind. I have two kids and neither of them would even THINK about running off. They know they'd be in deep pooh! I've never had them refuse to stay strapped in a carseat. Again, they know the rules and they know I'm serious. So when I see questions like the ones you've described I just don't get it. And parents who give their kids candy and toys just to shut them up deserve every amount of frustration they get. I've seen parents give in to kids so they'll be quiet. What does this teach them? It teaches them to be brattier and louder next time because it works!!
I knew a girl who was the absolute worst parent ever. She said her child refused to eat. When he was in our care he ate without issue. She said he couldn't be potty trained. When he stayed with us for a weekend he used the potty every time. She said she couldn't exercise in the morning because he'd walk over and stop the dvd player because he wanted to watch The Wiggles. She said she couldn't punish him because he refused to sit in time out. She allowed him to ruin another child's birthday party by crying and being a brat. It was a bowling party and he didn't want to take turns. He was crying and screaming and making everyone uncomfortable. She kept telling him, ';If you don't stop we're leaving.'; Everyone was hoping she'd follow through. She didn't. Just recently we were at a belt ceremony for my son's taekwondo. A mother there had a child who had to have been 3 or 4. He still had a pacifier!! AND he was screaming and carrying on in the small room and no one could hear what was being said. Do you think she bothered to get up and walk out? Nope. She continued to sit there with that screaming child.
I realize being a parent is challenging. Goodness knows I've faced some issues. It isn't easy and there are no perfect kids. But those kinds of parents are just irresponsible and lazy!Does it bother you the number of parents on this site that seek advice about...?
I think it has to do with sheer exhaustion. Sometimes you just can't think straight and really don't know what to do, even when it might be something obvious.
I think you being a bit critical don't you? I do not believe it hurts to ask for advice if needed . I can understand your agravation but some people may need a little more support thinking that maybe someone else has masterd being able to keep a child well entertained while in a car seat or saying the right things other than bribing a child with candy or toys so they'll keep their coats on and go to bed when needed. I think you as well should join my group on my 360 home page ttcdnbttteot@yahoo it's used to give advice to parents and created especially for young teens with ?'s . Happy holidays!
Basically you are saying that it is wrong for someone to seek advice on a subject that they lack information on. And that when someone does ask a simple parenting question they are then a bad parent. Ok... first... no question makes someone a bad parent. At least they are seeking information to be better at an area in their lives where they are lacking. Now hopefully they are intelligent enough to sort through the answers and pick a reasonable one.
I think that most of the people who ask questions here are really looking for an answer. And it's really rude of you to berate them because of that. Not everyone has had experience in raising children or has family around them who can help them when they seek advice.
Learn to be more tolerant, it will make you a better parent.
:)
Don't you think that this site is more of a sounding board? Yes, people should know that if it's 20 below, they have to put their child in a coat, but where else can they vent their frustrations anonymously? Who hasn't called their pediatrician for something and sat nervously waiting for a call back?
Even when we're firm and consistent and we've read every book on the subject, sometimes when our child gets up 18 times in the night, and absolutely refuses to sleep or stay in bed, we just want to know how others have coped with the same situation.
Likewise, people post answers a lot of times just to see what others think of ';their'; method.
I think a lot of the really ridiculous questions are fake or exaggerated: ';My son has a temperature of 103 and is vomiting blood, should I take him to the doctor?';
I truly hope that no parent relies on this site for serious or life-threatening questions.
i think its all balony of 12 yr olds or so!
Notice most of the people asking questions are first itme mother and the peole answering are mothers of multiple children. I wish there were more mothers out there asking questions about there children, I wish i had this when I had my first I was totally clueless (and I wouldn't have had to call my mom all the time).
These must be the same people I encounter at the grocery store and the mall. They sit there and watch their kids just stand in your way or run around screaming and they either do nothing or they simply say, in a really soft voice ';stop that,'; but they do nothing to enforce it. I'm sick to death of these bratty kids!
What bothers me just as much are all the ';I had sex two days ago... am I pregnant?'; questions on here.
Yes, it is tiresome at times to see the questions about basic parenting...but on the other hand we enjoy a forum that people feel safe enough to ask the questions and get good answers! A wonderful person once told me many years ago that the only stupid question was the one that went unasked. So as annoying as it might be or seem...ASK AWAY...there is alot of wisdom out here!
What burns me up is when mothers ask why their child has vomited twice in the last half hour. Why the hell are they on the computer and not taking care of the child? Geez, call a doctor if you need to but don't log on the computer!
yes it does bother me that so many parents refuse to ';Parent'; for the most part kids need to know somethings they have choices somethings they do not IE you have to wear a coat in the snow, do you want your blue coat or your pink coat. You have to stay in bed period no choice there. (my mom always had a saying I cant make you fall asleep but I CAN make you stay in your bed!!!)Their only choice with that is wether they want perks the following day (No child is entitled to television/cartoons/movies/phone, if they are good then they can get it, if your kid stays up all night then tv comes out of bedroom, if homework suffers because of phone calls then no phone calls,color all over the walls you wash the wall and lose your crayons, this parenting thing really isnt all that difficult.If you stop and think that real life for adults contain natural consequences (IE miss work, less money, dont do dishes nothing to eat with, dont obey boss lose job) so the best way to raise kids is with the natural consequences.
I agree. I'm not a parent yet, (my husband and I hope to be soon) however, people should know common sense and stop asking rediculous questions, as you've mentioned. You are completely right about people ';masking the real issue';.
Yeah, it does bother me. But mostly because these parents were raised by such poor parents themselves that they just were never taught the most basic of parenting skills by example.
People would be amazed what their children will do when given no other option. Parenting is extremely hard, but its also extremely simple. Consistancy is simple, sticking to it is hard.
I agree.. If you have to ask simple questions like that, you are not a good parent. I feel the same way about people asking for marriage or dating advice.. Like.. My husband cheated on me with my sister on our daughters bed while using my sex toys.. Should i divorce him? My ex-boyfriend treated me like crap, how do i get him back?
I agree with you to a certain degree. I think that now-a-days people are becoming parents when they are not ready for the responsibility. I agree that it is ridiculous when parents ask silly questions or want to know answers to common sense things. That is why children become untolerable or misguided. Children need discipline and guidance. However there is nothing wrong with people on yahoo answers answering the ';common sense questions'; because we need to give certain parents as much guidance and help as they can get. What really gets me is when people become parents too early in life or when they are not ready. I have seen mothers who can't even hold their children the correct way. If you're not ready for a child then don't have one. You bring up a very good point.
I am a single mother of a 5 year old daughter. She drives me up the wall. I do my best. I was raised by both my parents, and they are still together. I have four siblings, three of whom have their own children. None of us are perfect. We do not have all the answers when it comes to raising kids. We ask questions...sometimes we get an answer that works, sometimes we don't. Parenting is trial and error. What you do will either work, or it won't. Far be it from me to tell someone what will or won't work for their kids. Some things should definitely be common sense, like making your kid wear a coat when it's 20 below. That is when you have to make your kid understand you are right and that they shouldn't argue. My daughter tries that crap with me and she gets shut down instantly.
Some parents just need a little extra guidance, as frustrating as it may be to you, and to others. I still ask questions. I don't have all the answers, and if i did, I'd be a millionaire.
i just chalked it up to low income uneducated parents from the states *shrugs*
I totally agree with you. People are afraid to be parents. No one wants to put restrictions or limits on their children, and they aren't doing them any favours. All this New Age parenting crap about allowing children to make their own decisions and be ';individuals'; is creating a generation of kids who have no self control, no respect and no futures.
I have a friend who has a two year old daughter. This kid is out of control because my friend won't effectively parent her. The kid recently had tonsillitis and her mum wouldn't give her medicine,because her daughter ';doesn't like it';!!! Too bloody bad,I say. That kid, and those raised like her, are being set up to fail when they finally hit the real world.
Thanks for letting me rant, because I 100% agree with you.
its anoying and sometimes i think ';you dont know?';
but hey, atlest their asking for help and getting some ansewers, better then doing nothing.
This is a funny question. I think we have all wanted to say it, but feel it's mean-spirited to do so.
There a few issues. As a first-time parent, I have been lucky to have access to the very good doctors, the internet, and many friends and family members, who all give great advice. Not everyone has that luxury. Not all of us have access to great doctors, and family member or friends who actually did a good job raising their kids.
That's no excuse however. If you have the ability to ask these types of questions on yahoo answers, you also have the ability to research your questions online. There are many websites that have great advice. I use babycenter.com.
I know that some people use YA because they are too lazy to look things up themselves, but when it comes to parenting, should you really be that lazy? Obviously, these lazy parents are the same ones you refer to in your question. I would never take advice from people on YA about parenting anyway, would you?
Oh my Gosh, I totally agree. Our children need guidence, especially in todays world. They will come to thank their parents later if we are there to protect them. Children are so unprodictable that parents just need to get over themselves and realize that they will never come first now. What did they think would happen.
Yes, it seems rediculous how little some parents know when it comes to taking care of their children, BUT, at least they are seeking advice to better themselves for the sake of their children. So that doesn't really bother me. What does bother me is, like you said, the people giving them bad advice.
I agree with you to some degree. Some of the questions on here bother me or concern me: I posted a similar question last week. But I think with most parents it might be that they are frustrated and are seeking advice from other parents who may have been through the same thing and might have some words of encouragement. I try not to judge people on here or think I know their situation. The answers: well you have to take most of them with a grain of salt because not everyone is here to help.
Secular advice about religious toleration?
I'm in Georgia for the summer. It's much more religious than I'm used to (being from DC). I'm a patient person, but I'm finding myself frustrated everyday -- it seems like any conversation can turn into a sermon.
What's the healthiest way to deal with this?Secular advice about religious toleration?
Stay at home, lol.
Edit: Dude, that's what I did when I lived in WV. Except I was fortunate enough to have friends that I've known since childhood that accept me and my evil atheistic ways, lol and don't bother preaching at me.Secular advice about religious toleration?
It's culture. I say learn something. Kinda like when I joined the army and first really hung out with black people (I grew up in a 99.9% white neighborhood). I listened, hung out, and made some of the best friends of my life. So the point is embrace the conversation, and you might like it instead of hate, or have a prejudice for it. Remember, people aren't perfect - and christians are people.
I really don't know; I have a close friend in Georgia who's experiencing the same problem, has done so for years.
I don't know what your religious beliefs are, don't know what might work for you. But you might consider thanking people for their religious testimony, since they're trying to save your soul from what they think is damnation, and you might then even ask them to pray for you. Then see if you can turn the conversation in a different direction.
If you have strong religious beliefs yourself, you might also turn the table on them by asking them if they're saved ... I don't know if this is really a good idea, though, or if it would get them riled up. It's nice to think about, though.
Another idea: find someone who shares your sensibilities who's lived in Georgia for some time, and ask them what they do.
I think if I were in your situation, I might try to quote the Gospels at them and point out the extreme importance that Jesus seemed to place on people doing more for the poor, the implication being that perhaps the person I'm talking to isn't quite as devout in this regards as he or she should be.
Ditto regarding what Jesus said about loving even our enemies; ditto what he said about people not being able to serve ';God and mammon'; -- God %26amp; money.
I mean, if you have a certain kind of religious background, you can always preach sermons back at them. If you have a more secular background, I don't know just what you do. Be polite and nod a lot, maybe, and be willing to accept it when people offer you literature.
I guess it depends on what you call 'sermon' some people think someone is preaching when all they said was ' God is good', I have lived all over the country[ your area of DC/ Baltimore included] and it is basically the same all over; the only differences that i have found from one area of the country to another is the cuisine of the area not too many people get too preachy when they are eating, enjoying movies, attending the arts, perhaps you should change the venue you are using for meeting people... then if it still happens, you could always politely change the subject, or consider the fact that maybe; just maybe God is trying to get your attention.
Depends. If you are religious, pray to your God for some ear plugs. I don't mean to be rude about that, But i feel your pain.
If you are not religious, then just smile and nod. You won't be there forever. Gotta remember that, dude.
I'm sorry you're so annoyed. = \
Listen more and talk less.
Edit: Oops, I thought it was you who turn the conversation into a sermon.
You gotta be assertive. Say things like ''Okay that's interesting, but I have other things to do right now.'' Or, try to change the subject.
If you don't like the preaching maybe say you don't mind a healthy debate where everyone's side is accounted for fairly, or I don't want to discuss it works well too.
Smile politely, nod at them, whilst the entire time they talk be rocking out to ';Born In The USA'; in your head. If that doesn't work simply point behind them and when they turn around walk away.
Wear a Bad Religion shirt. Learn up on anti-theist arguments. Walk around proclaiming you are the son of God.
You could make friends of religious backgrounds and just be friends, do things that friends would do together. Like maybe go out for lunch. I hope you can understand each other.acne scars treatment
What's the healthiest way to deal with this?Secular advice about religious toleration?
Stay at home, lol.
Edit: Dude, that's what I did when I lived in WV. Except I was fortunate enough to have friends that I've known since childhood that accept me and my evil atheistic ways, lol and don't bother preaching at me.Secular advice about religious toleration?
It's culture. I say learn something. Kinda like when I joined the army and first really hung out with black people (I grew up in a 99.9% white neighborhood). I listened, hung out, and made some of the best friends of my life. So the point is embrace the conversation, and you might like it instead of hate, or have a prejudice for it. Remember, people aren't perfect - and christians are people.
I really don't know; I have a close friend in Georgia who's experiencing the same problem, has done so for years.
I don't know what your religious beliefs are, don't know what might work for you. But you might consider thanking people for their religious testimony, since they're trying to save your soul from what they think is damnation, and you might then even ask them to pray for you. Then see if you can turn the conversation in a different direction.
If you have strong religious beliefs yourself, you might also turn the table on them by asking them if they're saved ... I don't know if this is really a good idea, though, or if it would get them riled up. It's nice to think about, though.
Another idea: find someone who shares your sensibilities who's lived in Georgia for some time, and ask them what they do.
I think if I were in your situation, I might try to quote the Gospels at them and point out the extreme importance that Jesus seemed to place on people doing more for the poor, the implication being that perhaps the person I'm talking to isn't quite as devout in this regards as he or she should be.
Ditto regarding what Jesus said about loving even our enemies; ditto what he said about people not being able to serve ';God and mammon'; -- God %26amp; money.
I mean, if you have a certain kind of religious background, you can always preach sermons back at them. If you have a more secular background, I don't know just what you do. Be polite and nod a lot, maybe, and be willing to accept it when people offer you literature.
I guess it depends on what you call 'sermon' some people think someone is preaching when all they said was ' God is good', I have lived all over the country[ your area of DC/ Baltimore included] and it is basically the same all over; the only differences that i have found from one area of the country to another is the cuisine of the area not too many people get too preachy when they are eating, enjoying movies, attending the arts, perhaps you should change the venue you are using for meeting people... then if it still happens, you could always politely change the subject, or consider the fact that maybe; just maybe God is trying to get your attention.
Depends. If you are religious, pray to your God for some ear plugs. I don't mean to be rude about that, But i feel your pain.
If you are not religious, then just smile and nod. You won't be there forever. Gotta remember that, dude.
I'm sorry you're so annoyed. = \
Listen more and talk less.
Edit: Oops, I thought it was you who turn the conversation into a sermon.
You gotta be assertive. Say things like ''Okay that's interesting, but I have other things to do right now.'' Or, try to change the subject.
If you don't like the preaching maybe say you don't mind a healthy debate where everyone's side is accounted for fairly, or I don't want to discuss it works well too.
Smile politely, nod at them, whilst the entire time they talk be rocking out to ';Born In The USA'; in your head. If that doesn't work simply point behind them and when they turn around walk away.
Wear a Bad Religion shirt. Learn up on anti-theist arguments. Walk around proclaiming you are the son of God.
You could make friends of religious backgrounds and just be friends, do things that friends would do together. Like maybe go out for lunch. I hope you can understand each other.
Need advice about ,bout company not paying holiday pay?
iv allready sent this question in ,think i put it in wrong catergory,is it ilegal for a company not to pay holiday pay .when you book a week of and are off ill the day before your holiday starts, you miss out on your holiday pay what happens or who gets your holiday payNeed advice about ,bout company not paying holiday pay?
holidays are not a requirment that companyies have to pay.
It is normal for Companies that have holidays that you must work the scheduled work day before and after the holiday to be eligible.
The hodiday pay just stays with the CompanyNeed advice about ,bout company not paying holiday pay?
You do not lose the holiday. The week you booked for holiday is considered sick leave as u never returned to work to stop your sick leave. So you will now have run up 6 days sick leave and no holidays for this week in question. That means u still have the weeks holiday to take later. I assume you do not get paid when u were off sick but if u are in the UK u are entitled to Stautory sick pay (about 拢60 per week). Speak to your HR dept to confirm this. Good luck
You earn your holidays as you work can't quite remember but around one and half days per month that you work it is illegal not to pay you these. take them to court. T
go to your labor office and file a complaint..
your holiday pay will be paid the next timeyou book a holiday off work. sick pay will always over ride holiday pay, so the week you had off was sick and not holiday.
Pop into your local citizens advice centre,Free advice available, leaflets etc
huh? yah you are right. you put it wrongly before..and now too!
if you are an employee paid a monthly salary, holiday pays are included in your monthly salary..but if you are paid daily, well..no work no pay should apply!
holidays are not a requirment that companyies have to pay.
It is normal for Companies that have holidays that you must work the scheduled work day before and after the holiday to be eligible.
The hodiday pay just stays with the CompanyNeed advice about ,bout company not paying holiday pay?
You do not lose the holiday. The week you booked for holiday is considered sick leave as u never returned to work to stop your sick leave. So you will now have run up 6 days sick leave and no holidays for this week in question. That means u still have the weeks holiday to take later. I assume you do not get paid when u were off sick but if u are in the UK u are entitled to Stautory sick pay (about 拢60 per week). Speak to your HR dept to confirm this. Good luck
You earn your holidays as you work can't quite remember but around one and half days per month that you work it is illegal not to pay you these. take them to court. T
go to your labor office and file a complaint..
your holiday pay will be paid the next timeyou book a holiday off work. sick pay will always over ride holiday pay, so the week you had off was sick and not holiday.
Pop into your local citizens advice centre,Free advice available, leaflets etc
huh? yah you are right. you put it wrongly before..and now too!
if you are an employee paid a monthly salary, holiday pays are included in your monthly salary..but if you are paid daily, well..no work no pay should apply!
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