Help please...I need some advice about my husband?

My husband is deployed right now. He has been gone for about a month and he is on a four month deployment. Im going to be by myself, and I have been suffering from depression for a little while now. Well, my family hates me because of it, and I am so close to killing myself. I just can't hold back anymore. I just need him here with me. I dont know what else to do anymore. Is there any way at all I could get him home?Help please...I need some advice about my husband?
Get off the computer and go get help. Now. There are support groups for wives of military personnel. But get to a doctor or mental health specialist now. Don't wait. Please. Email me and let me know how you are doing.Help please...I need some advice about my husband?
Okay, honestly, we both know that you have to be at least a little bit excited for that wonderful day that he comes home. There have to be a few times that catch yourself smiling uncontrollably and squeaking to yourself because you're so excited. A four month deployment? That's really not much honey. my husband is deployed for a year to Iraq and he just left also. You need to concentrate on what you have to look forward to. Concentrate on how much this is going to be worth it! Military wives do get plenty of resources while their soldier is deployed and I would take advantage of it, I did and it helps. Keep your chin up too, everyone understands that this really sucks for you right now so don't think that they are snubbing you, they just don't like being around such a downer so if I were you I would really work on putting on a face for your family. After all, deployments affect so many people and you wouldn't want his deployment to affect your family too in a negative way. Best of luck to you!
I don't know if you can get him home. when you talk to him next time tell him how you fell. my boyfriend leaves for a while because hes job. i get depressed a lot because he ain't home much. i talk to god and ask him for help in dealing with my depression. i get lonely a lot you don't want to end your life because you will leave your husband all a lone. maybe you could talk to some one about your depression. it helps me when i talk to some one. it helps me to talk to god.
find a support group for others in your position. I am sure there are others in your area that are like that. Check with the Chaplin or the community bullitan board and see what kind of social groups there are.





It is hard for you to be seperated. All you can really do is pray about it and for your husband, and get support.





If there are no support groups, start one. Have a bunch of the ladies come to your house and have a luncheon and get to know them.





Don't ever feel like you are alone. You are not. I have a few friends whos husbands have been over. I also have a dear friend that I worry about that is over there. If he were my husband, I would be going crazy myself. Worrying about him. But there are others who are in your shoes. You just need to find them and get to know them.
Does your unit have a family support group? If not, always remember things are never as bad as they seem. If you previously had a good relationship with your family please share with them how you feel. Don't hold it inside for them. You will not do your family or anyone else any favors if you die. I am sure your family loves you. They just don't understand what you are going through. If you go to church talk to someone their. Three months will pass faster than you might believe. If you clear your mind and get out and find a hobby you will have the chance to grow as a person.
I'm sorry but he can't come home. Please go see the Chaplain. Even if you don not attend church, the Chaplain is there to help. If you aren't comfortable seeing the Chaplain go to the Family Support Center and speak with them. You can even call Military One Source a1-800-342-9647


and speak with a counselor for free and it's confidential. Yes, it is hard and you don't have to do this alone.





He is a military man and you knew this when you married him. he is not always going to be there. He is not always going to be with you. You need to be strong not only for yourself but for your family. I'm sure that he is not having the most fabulous time either. Hang in there.
hi hun, I am the girlfriend of a Marine, and I know how it feels to be alone! I have a sister who also suffers from depression and I know that it is not your fault, but darling it is never bad enough to take your life away. Your husband would tell you to keep your chin up and he'll be home soon. I belong to a WONDERFUL group from yahoo, its called USMCgals... even if your husband isn't in the Marines we're people to talk to ! Please if it that serious call the help line that someone else mentioned.. please please please I can tell you from experience it is never worth it to hurt everyone who loves you (especially your man).. and if you need to talk privately e-mail me !! xoxox stay strong hun!



I don't have a husband nor is my boyfriend in the army, navy or anything like that.... But listen, you made a commitment to him and I'm sure he needs your support. You have to stay strong and find something YOU like to do. Keep your mind busy, find a hobby.. Having a husband who is fighting for our country is a great thing, I'm sure you new this day was coming....and no one wants to feel alone. I really think you need to find it inside yourself to be the strong woman you know you can be for the next 3 months. After all your not the only women in America whose husband is deployed right now... Be strong and email me if you ever need to talk...
Don't do anything like killing yourself. People love you.Talk about your feelings. Your family should not cast stones your way. You have every right to feel the way you do. Your husband should be with you and anyone would feel depressed. Call your doctor and make an appointment .Call a friend and go out for lunch. You need someone to lean on.









You need to be treated for your depression. If you feel like you are on the edge call 1-800-suicide to get some help right now. You can also check out this site for support and help....http://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/M鈥?/a>





You need to try and be strong. Go seek medical help. Try to keep yourself busy while he is gone. Go to school, get a job, start a hobby.
It's very hard to be away from the ones you love. Not just for you but him too. It doesn't justify what he did or excuse it, so don't do the same thing in hurt or anger. Find Other military wives, preferably someone who is older and has been around the military for a while. These women can be very helpful. They have been through it all.


Good luck to you.
Go see the chaplain. Then get involved in some volunteer work. Helping others will take your mind off your own problems, and help you pass the time waiting for your husband. There are plenty of people out there that need the help.
no. please dont even attempt it. i am a marine wife. its really not fair to him for you to do that, obviously you have not been doing this for very long. but trust me it does get better. the hardest time was when my husband left for boot camp. since then he has been on three deployments and is deployed right now. it gets easier every time i promise. look for wives to talk to friends... just dont tell him anything sad.





by trying to figure out how you can get him to come home it stresses him out more, im sure he wants to be home with you too but he cant.. he is doing his job and taking care of the people around him, and you at home at the same time by keeping the country safe. if you constantly complain about how much you miss him it is only distracting to him and he wont be able to focus on what he needs to focus on and very well could wind up getting shot in the face. its blunt but those were the exact words my husband told me when i first complained. tell him that you love him, tell him that you miss him, and tell him that you are okay and that the rest of the time is gonna fly by. talk about the weather, it doesnt matter just not stressful subjects. he needs to take care of himself and not be worried about you, they are NOT going to let him come home, and even if you did kill yourself they would allow him to come home for two weeks and send him right back over. someone i knows wife died in a car accident and thats exactly what happened.. what do you think would happen to your husband in that situation?? don't be that selfish.. your gonna need to learn if you want your marriage to work, you cant make your husband choose. when the guys with him find out that you cant deal with it they will make fun of him and probably call him weak and what not. i dont know what branch hes in but thats how the marine corps works.





best of luck.





take antidepressants.. lexapro works wonders





a guy in my husbands platoons wife pulled stuff to get him to not go on deployment.. (they caught on.. she was miraculously in the er whenever he was in the field or on duty.. always with something different she had all these symptoms but no actual problems like faiting and blacking out which she eventually admitted to not having to certain people) he is now getting a humanitarian discharge. everyone wishes they didnt have to leave their families but they still do. the guys no longer consider him one of them, they barely speak to him, he gets treated like dirt and gets less respect than a private when he is an nco.
there's no way that he can come home, but you need to get some help for yourself. look into counseling through military one source (you get 6 free sessions). also, give yourself little milestones to look forward to during the deployment instead of focusing on him being gone. just little things, like meeting a friend on the weekend, someone's birthday two weeks down the road, etc. also, set some goals to get done before he comes home, like cleaning out all the junk in your house, learning a new hobby (cooking fun food to send to your husband is always good!), etc. believe me, you'll get through this, and you'll do good!


another thing i suggest is writing your husband everyday, be it snail mail or email, and just tell him about the everyday. treat it like he just got home from work and you're telling him all about your day. even though you may not get a response back very often, it helps you to feel connected to him and him to feel connected to his life back home.


these are all things that have helped me through the deployment so far, we're only 6 months into a 15 month deployment. i'm currently pregnant with our first kid, so after next month, i'll have lots to do, but right now, i'm all by myself, so i just use these tips to pass time and stay strong/happy.