you are putting your daughter in danger by sleeping with her. think about her best interest. dont be selfish.Someone please give advice, about my baby?
Maybe try a bassinett right next to your bed so that she is within arms reach. Yes, most other mammals co-sleep, but most other mammals or people in other countries don't have soft cushiony beds with lots of covers and pillows that are 3 feet off the ground! And yes, co-sleeping does not increase the risk for sids...studies show that sleeping in the same room with your baby can decrease the risk of sids because you are more prone to wake up instinctlively if something goes wrong, but getting caught in covers or rolled over on is not the same thing as sids.There are too many covers and pillows in your bed that she can get caught up in and smother. Alot of parents do this, but personally I would rather go a few sleepless nights than go the rest of my life knowing my baby died because I couldn't sleep with out her in the bed....it's not a risk I would be willing to take. Yeah, the first week or so may be restless for both of you, but better safe than sorry.
Have you looked into a co-sleeper - they are kind of expensive but worth it. I had the very VERY same problem as you and this was the compromise my husband and I made. It helped to put her in her crin during the day when she napped that way the transition didn't scare her when she started sleeping in her room at night. It does take time getting used to, but you can do it. DO not think you are the only one who feels this way - I think more moms do it than those who will admit it. Good luck!
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try to stop...she will get older and it will become a serious problem. like one answer said, give yourself several weeks to adjust and you'll be fine
You just have to put her in her own bed and give yourself a week or two to adjust. Then you will sleep fine.
put her crib right up against the side of your bed, but leave the one side of the crib down. so she's in her crib, but the crib is like an extension of your bed, so you can still touch her.
Co-sleeping can be done safely. Don't listen to people who tell you she'll never leave your bed, etc. That is a load of garbage.
Visit Dr. Sears website: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000鈥?/a>
He has a whole section on co-sleeping - research, studies, its benefits, and how to do it safely. It is not some weird unusual thing. Parents in many cultures sleep with their babies and even in our culture more people do it than usually admit to it. Just make sure you do it SAFELY. See the website for tips.
Let's face it - some babies will not sleep any other way. My first son would not sleep longer than 40 minutes at a time unless he was next to me. For nine months he slept curled up against me...then he graduated to a bed right next to mine...when he was a year old he got his own room and now at three he sleeps all night in his bed just fine.
Now, it can be a problem if your husband feels like the baby is ';taking over'; his own place in your bed. Co-sleeping needs to be something that both parents agree on. Have him read over what Dr. Sears has to say about it, too, and he may be more understanding.
Co sleeping can be done saftley and those feeling are normal.
If she is an infant, you could put her crib in your room. This way you will be near her. If she is older, once she falls asleep, you can put her in her bed. After a couple of weeks, try laying in her bed until she falls asleep. When my son was a baby, I had his crib in my room because I was terrified something would happen and I wouldn't be right there, so I understand. But trust me, you need to start changing this now or there will be problems down the road.
Women all over the world-- in fact-- mammals all over the world-- sleep with their babies. It's only in westernized countries that people frown at co-sleeping. What do the other respondents mean ';it's dangerous?'; The American Academy of Pediatrics states that co-sleeping does NOT increase the potential for SIDS. What does increase the potential for SIDS is: secondhand smoke, sleeping with baby if you are under the influence of intoxicants or if you are obese. Let's think about it this way: is there any other mammal on the planet that would take the most vulnerable member of its pack and stick it on the far side of the cave alone? Do you like sleeping alone? Why would a baby? Babies sleep better with their parents and their parents sleep better because we belong together.
I am going to paste a link to the Dr. Sears website. Sears is a world-famous pediatrician who is considered a leading authority on pediatric health. Sears is a co-sleeping advo cate. Here is a snippet about his wife Martha and one of their babies:
';The sleep-sharing pair is often, but not always, in sleep harmony with each other. Martha would often enter a state of light sleep a few seconds before our babies did. They would gravitate toward one another, and Martha, by some internal sensor, would turn toward baby and nurse or touch her, and the pair would peacefully drift back to sleep, often without either member awakening. Also, there seemed to be occasional simultaneous arousal. When Martha or the baby would stir the other would also move. After spending hours watching these sleeping beauties, I was certain that each member of the sleep-sharing pair affects the sleep patterns of the other, yet I could only speculate how. Perhaps these mutual arousals allow mother and baby to ';practice'; waking up in response to a life-threatening event. (If SIDS is a defect in arousability from sleep, perhaps this practice would help baby's sleep arousability mature.) ';
maybe you should try putting her down in a cot and put the cot right next to your bed where you sleep.
it will be easier on you and your husband.
and it will help you get use to having to put her in her own bed.
shell be right next to you still so it shouldnt be to hard.
good luck.
Don't do it, it's dangerous. It's just not worth it.
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