whatever you do, do not rush into anything- not even one night stands. your heart and soul are very vulnerable right now. guys can smell that from a mile away.. live your life right now as a single women with a strong mind and soul.. god has a funny way of doing things. when your mentally and physically healed from the hurt and he feels you are ready he will send you your angel with wings.. just be patient good things come to those who wait !!!!!Any advice about going through a divorce, and not wanting to be alone the rest of my life?
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't
supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back
Take a few years time out for you. Alone isn't so bad for a bit. Get your head on straight, create your life independently 1st, then go out and have fun, along that road you WILL find the love of your life. I DID!
GOOD LUCK!
I'm 34 and going through one right now, just don't worry about it. You haven't even rid yourself of the last headache don't be in a hurry for a new one. Get a friend with benefits and just enjoy life. Friends and family are there for you so don't feel like you are ALONE. You aren't
Good question that all of us can relate to, in one way or another...
I believe it's better being on your own than being part of a really unhappy relationship. Here's an interesting side note: the more involved you become in your OWN world (work, family, friends), the more likely someone will come into your life. Desperate people scare others. If you're independent, a special person will just be the icing on your cake, not just your cake.
I had the support of my family and even my soon to be ex-in-laws. If you have no support there are groups out there, stop in on one or make some calls about them. About no wanting to be alone. It has to be for a while. You need to get your %%$%%^^ together and get back on track. Get out of your house and meangle, no not the bars, the library, mall, neighborhood. shops , parks. You may not meet the man of your dreams but think of the excersise you';ll get. Good luck.
Get through the divorce and then get on with your life. There are lots of guys out there who are going to be interested in you. Take it slow get to know a few and if you find one you like then go from there. I have been divorced 3 years now and have dated for most of that time I can guarantee that the only reason one stays alone is if they choose to.
Yeah. Don't let your fear of being alone prompt you into another relationship. Being divorced ONCE is bad enough.
Get out of the house, make new friends, get to know yourself again. Being single again isn't nearly as bad as being in another relationship like the one you left.
Hang in there. Time will bring you a new perspective.
Now about your divorce. You owe your husband nothing. The goal is to come out in a way that you can afford to get back on your feet. Get a lawyer if you haven't already. And find some people you can confide in, a support group (friends, family, that sort of thing)
Remember that you are not your marriage, just because its ending doesn't mean your life is (oh, if only i'd believed that when i was going through this)
Become active in church, club or other functions. I have found working with Habitat for Humanity has given me needed skills for home improvement projects and also keep my mind off the divorce. In addition I have met many nice people and once the house is completed I can see that a needy family is living in something I helped make. Giving back to the community is way cool.
You dont have to be alone the rest of your life.....my advice would be to take some time off of relationships, keep yourself busy by working on your career or go to school....the best thing anyone can do for themselves is to get thier life where they want it to be. You may find as you become more and more independant a steady guy wont be as important to you, then you have a better chance of meeting the right guy, it seems like you always find the perfect one when you arent looking one.
Sorry to hear your going through this. I promise you, your heart will heal and you will not be alone the rest of your life. Try making a list of the positive and negatives, remember why you are getting the divorce. You will get used to being on your own, and you may even find you enjoy your new found freedom. Good Luck to you!
Sorry you are going through a divorce. I have been there years past and had the emptyness feeling and sure did not want to be alone the rest of my life. My advise to you is to take time, do not go out looking because of the need feeling. Let love happen and it will with the right person at the right time. If you go on a rebound you liable to only end up in the same situation or worse. And alone is not a bad thing. It is a great time for us to reflect and find what truthfully makes us happy. Good Luck. Let your heart guide you not words of family or friends.
You won't be I promise. I have been divorced for 3 years now. I'm 40 something and I have two kids who keep me busy. Just get use to yourself again. There is a difference between being alone and be lonely.
You can be in a room full of people and still be lonely.
Make a list of things you didn't or couldn't do while you were married and start at the top and start doing them.
My list was 75 items and still growing I have done at least 40 of the things on my list.
Remember It's going to be OK
Be careful you do not select a new mate while on the rebound ...
You will find a new mate but do not attach yourself to the first candidate that wants to take you to bed....
I have been married 3 times,, ( still on the 3rd) and yes it's very hard to imagine yourself without the person you married and thought you loved.. But there are so many other people out there who will love you and take care of you,, just don't give up,, get busy, learn something new,, like taking a dance class, or join a book club,, take karate,, just anything to keep you moving and meeting new people!!!
as a dear dear friend told me
Chin up,, eyes clear,, moving forward!!!!
I've been married 2 and its hard, but i met a great guy the other night at a bar. He said he likes, he said he liked me when fisrt saw me comne threw the door
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