Need some advice about marriage problem?

Me and my husband have been having some major problems and have seperated a few times in the past, we have been together for 8 yrs and married for almost 3 of them. we have two small children together. This last time, I let him come back cause he said he would change and all. But I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am not sure if its what I want. He wasnt the best dad or anything and paid no attention to us. He was going to work and then coming home and going to friends houses. So I got use to parenting alone pretty much. So me and the kids left and we gone for about a week, I let him come back, but not cause i wanted him to. I htought maybe I should or something. And now he is trying and all. But he has done that in the past and the change would last for a couple weeks and back to the same old. I have a really soft heart. And that is my weekness. I give in too easily. I dont know if it is worth it. If you need more details email me. ThanksNeed some advice about marriage problem?
8 yrs and 2 children is a lot to give up on. Maybe he loves you %26amp; the kids but lacks the skills to be a *great* husband/father. Perhaps counseling? Unless the situation is abusive, maybe you should keep trying? If the situation is abusive then run like crazy.





At some point or other though you simply have to decide what *you* want. Do you want it/him to get better? If you do then you have to try. If you don't want that then all you're doing is wasting precious time and you should move on.Need some advice about marriage problem?
I'm sorry to hear that, your husband doesn't know what he's missing.





Kids are a lot of work but they are so much fun to be with - being a dad is great I didn't know if I'd like it now I can't imagine life without it.





I just love when my kids look at mom and say ';I want Daddy to help me with that';. or ';Daddy, come play with me!';. Its the best kids are so much fun I especially like reading stories to them and making up different voices.





He needs to realize that his kids need a dad and it's past due time for him to step up.
It sounds like you've been doing it all on your own. Try counseling for the both of you. Let a third party take a look at all that is going on and give you an outside of the box view point...as well as some pointers of accountability for your husband.


You may have a soft heart and it sounds like you do. However, you both have tried your own hand at it twice. So lets let a professional take a look see...and give you some sound advise and some tips on how to have a healthy happy relationship.


Your kids need this from both of you.
I know how you feel. To be honest it's really up to you. Does this time seem different or are you playing yourself? that's the thought that runs through your head. I guess you have to step out on faith no matter what decison you make. Trying this last time might be what you need to make a permnant decison. You will always know.. You gave it your all. good Luck..really.