Now that I am about to turn 14, it means more responsibilities which I don't think I'm ready for. I don't mind washing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, watching the cat, and all that other stuff, but the pressure form home schooling is making me feel very ill. It’s like my mother and grandmother expects all this stuff from me. “ The other home school kids know how to do this,” or “ The other home schooling kids know how to do that.” But no, I am not the other home schooling kids, I’m just...me!
I am already dealing with a lot of emotional problems and stress, and I can’t take this. I can’t go back to my old school, (let’s just say I had A LOT of problems,) and I can’t go to a D.C. public school, ( have you seen the news?) S this is my last resort. I studied for 1 ½ hours but my grandmother still doesn’t approve. It’s the pressure, and I can’t do it anymore. I feel that the only thing that’s keeping my sanity is the will to do something with my life. Please help, every time I try to tell them it leads to an argument. What should I do?I need some advice about school. Please help!?
if you belong to a group of home schooled kids then why don't you try to talk to one of the other mom's and ask them to talk to your mom for you. If it leads to an argument why don't you write your mom a letter telling her how you feel give it to her and tell her when she is done reading it you want to discuss it with her.I need some advice about school. Please help!?
Sit down with them and work out some mutual goals, like what they expect you be to able to accomplish. If they expect you to do 5 chapters of your history text every week, then you can figure out how much time you need to devote to it. Or be able to write a 3 page paper with correct paragraphs. Those are just examples. 1.5 hours, at the other answer noted, isn't very much on a per day basis, but what else are you doing and how much are you accomplishing? That is more important than the time factor.
Could you maybe study WITH other homeschoolers? A day or two a week? My cousins homeschooled (continue to, I think) in DC, it is a very good city for it.
Instead of just doing something and then hearing it isn't good enough, find out what IS good enough and then works towards doing that. If they expect you to ';just know'; maybe it isn't the right thing for you.
Well tell how you feel about your life to your grandmother and tell her when she is happy not angry.
Don't let yourself get into arguments with them. This causes more strain. They are pushing you because they want you to be able to grab as much as you can while you are young. They do what they are doing because of their experiences in life - they are not stupid - they really have your interests in mind. If you want to 'get them off your back', prove to them they don't have to climb on you back. Be PRO-active, not RE-active. Change your attitude - don't worry about what other kids are going through. Who cares? This is your time, time to grab all the knowledge you can to take advantage of this planet the best you can for you and your family. Thing way ahead. Way, way, way ahead. Everything you do now will help you in higher education. Look for the stability you will need. Look for the seconds and minutes, not the days and years. Give it all you got, Sweetheart.
Big things seldom come along. One should know the small as well as the big. We may all yearn to make lasting achievements and to be heroes, but life seldom affords us the opportunities to do so. Most of our days consist of small things - the uneventful meditations, the ordinary cooking of meals, washing dishes, the educational studies - and it is from these small things that the larger events of life are composed.
We rarely have the occasion to make grand gestures. The champion gymnast's greatest moment is but an hour out of a lifetime. The works of great artists are viewed for very short times. The master musician's best composition is but one work in a sea of musical tones. If we want to be successful, it is the small things that we should pay attention to.
We must not fall into the trap of waiting so long for the big things that we let numerous small chances slip right by us. People who do this are always waiting for life to be perfect. They complain that fate is against them, that the world does not recognize their greatness. If they would adjust their sights, they would see all the beautiful opportunities swirling at their feet. If they would humble themselves enough to bend down, they could scoop untold treasures into their hands.
If your mom and grandma won't listen, make sure you are actually listening to their side of things. It's not real communication if you are expecting them to hear you but you aren't willing to listen to them. Also, consider trying to write them a letter about how you're feeling. Be specific, ';I'm feeling so overwhelmed and I don't know what to do about it. Can we find a solution together?'; Whatever you do, DON'T blame it on them. As soon as they feel blamed, they're going to go on the defensive and an argument will start.
One other thing: studying for 1.5 hours at the age of 13 is not nearly enough. Not unless you're a genius and that's all it takes for you to learn a day's worth. By 13, you should be looking at AT LEAST 3 hours a day of work. At least. What are you doing with the rest of your time during the day?
If the work itself is a problem and they won't give you something easier, you'll need to take it upon yourself to find easier stuff to do on your own. There's a wealth of stuff available online or at the library.
Another thought: if you are already dealing with emotional problems and stress, does this mean you are seeing a therapist? How are you dealing with them? And is there the possibility of going to an entirely different school (a different private school for example)?
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Can you talk them into a magnet school in something that you enjoy or are good at?
Remember they are sacrificing their time and effort to ensure you are well educated, they are probably concerned that you may be creating problems in your mind that may lead you astray from the education that you need to succeed in life.
If you feel that your mom and grand-mom are too stressful in teaching you, then try to find free tutoring at a teaching college or library for one or two of your main subjects. That way you don't have the family stress but you are still getting a quality education and you are attempting to solve your own problems.
Tell them that you are not the other homeschooled children. One of the big reasons to homeschool your children is so that they can move at their own pace. You have a pace that you can do, and they should not expect more of you.
Just sit them down and have a frank talk with them. If you think it would help, show them this question.
It's going to be ok. You just have to let them know in no uncertain terms that you can only do so much.
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