I am 7 mos. pregnant with my 2nd child, and unexpectedly horribly sick, in and out of hospital, throwing up blood, etc. my mum gave me heck for taking a cab to the hospital instead of calling her, so the next time I called her, she took me in and took my daughter home with her (a half-hour drive) to care for 3 times while my husband was at work... now she wants about 200$ for this, money we really don't have right now, what do I tell her? Thanks.Advice about how to deal with my mother?
WHAT? Why isn't your mom concerned about your condition more than money?
I think you should talk to her about how you cannot pay her since you aren't working. You are after all, still her daughter, and she should be sensitive enough that with your condition, she shouldn't hassle you with money issues. If for anything, she should be helping you not expecting anything for return.
I would just tell her, 'Mom, I don't have the money right now, and I cannot pay you. If you feel that you could only provide me with assistance in exchange of monetary compensation, then I think your help is unnecessary at this time.' Treat her like an employee if she insists on being one. How horrible!Advice about how to deal with my mother?
she wants what to take care of her grandchild for her sick daughter that is wrong!!! you do not have that kind of money tell her and i would never let her take care of your child again if thats the case.
This is your mother???!!! What a shame. She should be so happy to help you. Tell hwer that you cannot pay and for her not to offer again if it is not from the heart.
Tell her to go **** herself.
Why the heck would she want money?!! It sounds like it would have been cheaper to take a cab again. She shouldn't have offered to help if she was going to charge you. That isn't fair or very nice. Tell her you don't have the cash right now, and from now on you and your husband will figure out how you'll get back and forth. I'm sorry you're so sick. Take care and Good luck.
It sounds like you mom is a little selfish. I would tell you mom you can't afford the $200.00 and tell if this is the way she is going to be in the future, you're better off taking the cab. I'd offer your mom $20.00 for the gas she used for those days and $10.00 for any food you child might have eaten while in her care, if she refuses the money, tell it's this or nothing.
mothers shouldn't ask for money for helping out their children....if this is interfereing with her work and she needs the money to pay bills then she needs to tell you she can't do it. if she doesn't work she shouldn't be expected to keep your children or help you BUT she should want to help and make it easier on you plus the added time she gets to spend with her grandchild should be payment enough....hope all works out for you....good luck
Tell her that she should have told you upfront that there would be a charge for the transportation and for watching her granddaughter. If you'd known you wouldn't have called because you don't have the money right now to pay for those services. Then call a cab if you need one next time. Frankly I've never met a grandmother that charged for an offer of help. I'd double check anything she offers ahead of time from now on.
I wouldn't pay her a dime. How can she expect you to pay her she wanted you to call. Tell mom you are not going to pay because if the situation was reversed you wouldn't expect her to pay you. Next time you are feeling ill call an ambulance and stay in the hospital.
Ask her why she would want to get paid for spending time with ';her grand-daughter';??
Isn't time worth more than money?? My gosh she has some nerve...
wow that's crazy....tell ur mom u appreciate what she did for u and that u don't have the money.
Well, being that she offered to help, I am surprised that she is asking for anything from you.
But, I would tell her I cannot afford that right now and you would be glad to pay her $10 a week until you can get her paid up. Of course after that, I wouldn't allow her to do any ';favors'; until you know for sure if she is going to charge you for it...
Some people's mothers...
If she offered her help , it is free . Shame on your Mom for not helping out her daughter in need . Where is your Mother - in - Law , is she around to help out ? You need a ride and are that sick , call an ambulance and leave your Mom out of it .. Shame on her !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She wants paying for looking after her grandkid? That's just disgusting and you should let her know your feelings!
is there more to this story than you are telling ? I hope not, because I am basing this answer on trust that you are telling all as it is....... ok, she is your mom and I can hardly believe she has gone there.... hard to imagine, unless she is really in dire need of the money..... but , sense she made the offer and did insist you call her I think she is way out of line for asking for money... we moms and dads do things for our children, even if the cost is high, and at times we do have to say NO... so, you need to speak with mom and ask her just why she feels she is in-tittled to this money and why she thinks you should pay it ... ask in and out of respect..... remind her of her offer to help you at any time you called her..... was her motive money ? or did she really want to help you out ?? I hope this all works out, and I will send up an extra prayer for you and family and that new, soon to be baby.... God bless
Oh my gosh! Is your mother the devil or what? She shouldn't do this to you. She should have stated the money situation before hand. What kind of woman is this? I would tell her not to ever call me or come near me again.
You have to be kidding she is asking for money?
What about your MIL can she help out next time? Tell your mom that what she did is something mom's do. Besides she told you to call her. I wouldn't pay her the money.
Bless your heart and best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy.
If she didn't ask your permission to do this then I would say you do not have to pay her. It sounds like she had this all planned from the start.
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